I've dated this girl for a year and things were great up until the last month or two. We would fight a lot over the amount of time she and I would spend together (I'm in grad school, she isn't; I work a lot more hours than she does). Every fight revolved around our time together and what she saw as me not being committed to the relationship. At one point she wanted me to move in, and when I refused she thought I was non-commital.
Anyway, she breaks up with me a few times, then comes back asking for another chance. The last time I broke it off and we went a month without talking, then she calls again, asking me "am I sure we need to be apart?". I still have feelings for this girl, but things haven't changed. I'm still in school and will be for a while, and I still work some crazy hours that take me away from her.
Do I give it another shot if she says she's changed? Can I assume she can deal with my time constraints, or are we destined to fail because she wants what I can't give?
2007-03-07 04:40:00 · 5 answers · asked by TooMuch 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There always seems to be one person that wants more from a relationship than the other. It's agreed that you both fancy each other. What is not agreed upon is her neediness to be with you at all times. She has to understand that just because you have other things going on in your life, doesn't mean that you aren't willing to commit to her. If she can't share you with your lifestyle, I don't think she truly has your best interest at heart. She is only thinking of HER needs and that shouldn't be the case. Give and take is part of many relationships and if she can't give, then you may be better off without her. Think about what YOU need and once you establish that, you can move on, with or without her. Best of luck to you.
2007-03-07 04:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she feels lonely without you, she must really love you. its hard to work and do schooling and have a relationship at the same time. have you tried setting special days aside for her. call her out of the blue do surprising things and she may feel like you care more. do you really care alot about her..
2007-03-07 12:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by anna g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sure she knows what you r capable of so talk to her so she will understand . What is this question..... if shes changed / Do you not like her the way she is? Well then I guess it won;t work... Sounds like you don't want the real person she is.
2007-03-07 12:49:26 · answer #3 · answered by lilly l 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her u need some more time to think, and give it another 2 weeks or a month, letting her know ur serious.
2007-03-07 12:44:56 · answer #4 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to just become F.B.s, meaning Fu_k Buddies. Might as well make it worth your time....
2007-03-07 12:44:00 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋