A Love One Of Mine Has Drank Alot For Many Years It Controls His Life. He Has No Friends Or Family .?

Question

They Want Nothing Anything More To Do With Him. He Still Has A Good Job, But If They Call At Home, Most Times He's Way To Drunk To Go Out And Help. If He Talks To Them At All. I Have Made The Mistake Of Excuses For Him. If He's Passed Out I Cant Wake Him. Or He Gets Really Really Pissed IF I Tell Anyone He's Home..A Far As I Know He's Not Drinking On The Job, But Who Knows. He Doesn't Think Theirs Any Issue. But We All Have Tried And Tried Begged For Him Just To Concider Their Might Be A Problem. He Is The Worse Drunk On Earth. He Was Physicaly Abusive Years Ago, Untill I Fought Back And Kicked HIS ***. But Then I Was As Bad As He. He Never Rembers Anything The Day After. So I Have Been Taping Him. Not For Anyother Reason But To Hear Himself. Won't Listen, Or Thinks Tape Altered.But The Forgetfulness Is Very Different Now, Now He Doesn't Remember Things From One Min To The Next.Which At That Time He Doesnt Remember Where The Toilet Is .Not Married w/o Kids Can I Get Him Comitted Help

Answer 1

Have you ever heard of an intervention? That is when you get people who care about him all together, along with him
(he has to be sober) and you just keep stating fact after fact about his drinking. Play those tapes then. The purpose of this is to get him to admit that he has a problem and needs help. Tell him either he agrees to rehab, or you will have him committed to a facility. I can tell you a couple things based on vast experience though, rehab doesn't usually work the first time on someone being put there against their will. When someone does however admit they have a problem, then it can work. Only when he can admit that he is powerless over alcohol, can the recovery begin. Remember its impossible to save someone from themself. At the front of you phone book, you should be able to find a number for your local alanon chapter. Alanon is not AA. It is for the family and loved ones of alcoholics. Believe it or not, because you are so close to the situation, and sounds like you have been for a while, you need help also. Your thought process is just as distorted as his is, but for different reasons. Alanon does help. It helps you escape the insanity that is alcoholism. Maybe his road to recovery begins with yours. that may not make sense to you now, but find a chapter and go to a few meetings. Its the best free hour of self heeling you'll ever get. I hope I've helped, good luck.