Ok well my boyfriend and I are starting to plan our wedding.. My parents(mom and step dad) agreed to pay for the reception as long as we keep it to 125 guests and my "real" dad is paying for the DJ , photographer and videographer and his parents are paying for the bar ... well see the thing is he has 2 brothers and 4 sisters 2 of his sisters he is pretty close to but the other 2 he barely talks to the one showed up at our son's 1st birthday party brought her boyfriend and his kid who weren't invited and she didn't bring a gift or a card which you know if your really broke ok but at least get a card!!! and the other sister hasn't even seen our son he is 16 months old and she hasn't seen him or sent a card hasn't even called to say congratulations.. we sent invitations to her for my shower and his 1st birthday and every christmas we sent a card with pictures in it and she still hasn't even acknowledge that we had a baby!!
2007-03-07 04:30:52 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
and I don't want to scratch people off of my list to make room for his sisters ... like I have family from england and france who have sent cards and seen him! My grandma's sisters and their kids have seen him and sent a gift and cards and call to see how he is my great grandma's sisters are the same way have sent cards and everything.. ya they might not be as close family as his sisters but they have been there for our relationship and have helped welcome our son into the world... my thing is if we weren't special enough to her to share us haveing a baby then why does she need to be there to celebrate our wedding? any input from you guys would be great I want to keep our wedding to 125 guests but how do I when my family has been so supportive and his hasn't?? can we just not invite his 2 sisters and the rest of his family who haven't so much as called to say congrats!??
2007-03-07 04:35:40 · update #1
ya lets hope they don't come if we do invite them!... I also don't want my parents to pay like $80 a plate for people like that and the one sister bring all her kids and cost us like $300 I'd rather spend it on people who have shared in our lives so far. I don't really want to invite people just because they are related if they haven't cared about us and our family thus far why should we have to include them in our wedding? when there is tons of my family who have been there I don't want to shorten my list for people like that.... I can't imagine one of my brothers haveing a baby and not sending a card I'd be there the 2nd the baby was born!! like if her nephew was walking down the street she wouldn't recognize him or me !
2007-03-07 04:42:12 · update #2
My mom suggested that I just give him a total like 40 guests for him and he can decide who he invites from his family and if he finds there is more people then 40 he and his parents want there then they can pay for those extra people I talked to him a little bit about it and he thinks that is fair and with any hope his sisters won't show up! I get the rest because I have a bigger and closer family I have 3 sets of parents and their families to include and I have liveing grand parents he just has his parents and siblings and uncles and a few cousins any hope it works out and hope that they don't bother coming if we werent special to them when we had our son then why do they need to come to our wedding ..myabe though it will give my son a chance to meet his aunt
2007-03-07 04:53:25 · update #3
I'm not thinking about what I will or will not get from the one sister I just thought it was very rude for someone to come to a birthday party or a wedding and not even get a card especially a wedding since it costs alot of money for them to be there and if you can't afford $1 for a card you shouldn't go! I would NEVER go to a bday party or a wedding without getting a GIFT let alone a card.. and ya blood is thicker then water and family should mean something but family ment **** to them when we had our son 16months ago we are still waiting for a congratulations card or even a call from the one sister and the other one that did show up at his 1st bday party that was the first time she saw him she didn't even call to say congrats, the first time she said anything was at his 1st bday party ...My great grandma's sister's daughter lives in England and came to see my son the day I got home from the hospital and sends him cards every christmas and his birthdays!
2007-03-07 05:06:15 · update #4
you can do whatever you want. my husband is one of six, and has not seen or spoke to one of his sisters since he was 12. so we did not invite her. everyone else of course was invited.
you should have there who you want. yes they are family, but if they havent made any kind of effort to be a part of your lives then they have no business being invited or even showing up. if people are pushing for oyu to invite them, then explain to them youve both tried to be involved in their lives, and they havent made an effort to be in yours, so its their loss.
or go with what your mom said and give him a set number to invite and he can do so accordingly.
2007-03-07 05:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of al CONGRATS! I personally think that you shouldn't invite those chicks. "family" apparently doesn't mean much to them anyway. BUT they probably will be pissed if you don't invite them. So, SINCE these ppl are destroying your logistics in planning. Sit your parents and your fiance down to discuss it. Tell them that you want your relative overseas who have sent cards to come instead of his sisters becaus it makes more sense. But ask if you can invite them anyway and have 130 guest instead. Besides, with these, chicks track records, they probably wont show up. TRY really hard not to let these ppl who aren't important put a damper on YOUR special day.
I wish you many blessings with your future
2007-03-07 04:46:03 · answer #2 · answered by xtraluvly03 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I realize it's your wedding and you can do what you please. However, in my opinion, family is family and should at least be invited, even if they choose not to come. What does your fiance think? Does he want to invite them? What about his parents, would they be upset if you didn't invite his two other sisters? If this would upset his parents, even though they sisters appear to be on the rude side, alienating family probably isn't a good way to start a marriage. Congrats on your upcoming nuptials.
2007-03-07 04:38:45 · answer #3 · answered by Proud to be 59 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've gotten some good advice here. Some bad advice, too. I just want to say that it really sounds like this whole wedding is about you and your family, and you could care less about him and his family. Is that really the way you want to start off your married life?
Also, please remember that a gift at ANY occasion, be it a wedding or a birthday party, is 100% OPTIONAL. Always! No one ever has to bring a gift for any event, including your son's birthday party.
2007-03-07 09:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-17 12:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by shakita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood is thicker than water. Besides, if they are like you said, they probably won't even come, but you need to invite them. Life is not all about money and what you get or don't get. Life is about family, just having family show up for events should be enough. If you inviting people just because they will give you something, that is stupid.
2007-03-07 04:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I say ask your fiance what he thinks since it is his sisters, the decision is up to him, let him know how you feel but don't pressure him, even if they are crappy people, they are still his family and if he wants them invited to his wedding that is his right, discuss with him and work out a compromise, and good luck!
2007-03-07 05:03:18 · answer #7 · answered by ASH 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Rise above all that crap, invite the 2 sisters. Be a better person than they are. If they show up, kill them with kindness. Have a great wedding!!!
2007-03-07 05:25:30 · answer #8 · answered by luvnau 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and tell him how you feel about it but like others are saying family is family even though they don't show you any acknowledgement, you should be the bigger person and invite them who knows it might start something good in the family.
2007-03-07 05:13:33 · answer #9 · answered by nikki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are his SISTERS. So unless you want to deal with their resentment and hostility later, and your husband's bitterness about you shunning his family (for whatever reason) you better extend an invitation, let them come and have dinner and eat cake and leave. Stop being so childish and do the right thing-this isn't just YOUR wedding, it is HIS as well.
2007-03-07 05:02:50 · answer #10 · answered by Kay 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋