My boyfriend and I just recently broke up. I still love him and want to be with him but after everything we've been through I dont have it in me to fight for him anymore I just want someone that wants to be with me but I now have a big problme because for the last month I havent been on any sort of birth control and we've been together several times. I told him this the last time we spoke and he was understandably upset and the next day told me he's not going to be answering my phone calls or texts anymore. I think it's really childish of him to be doing that to me but I guess I cant be surprised that he's mad at me for being that careless. I've already accepted the fact that I'll be doing this on my own if I am pregnant but I dont want my kid to not even know their father. I left him a message asking him if he even wanted me to tell him if I was pregnant and he wont respond I have other ways of contacting him and getting word to him but should I even bother?
2007-03-07 04:08:57 · 16 answers · asked by Heather Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
For those of you that think that I was trying to manipulate him by getting pregnant think again. He has 4 kids already that he's not there for I knew that I'd be pretty much be doing it alone if I ended up pregnant, deep down I knew all along I'd lose him cause he's not ever going to settle down with any one girl. I knew that me getting pregnant would actually be the end of us cause he left his last girlfriend pregnant. I just feel like the way he talks about missing his kids maybe he'd want to know but I'm not sure if it's even worth my time that I want my child to have a father that is in and out of it's life all the time
2007-03-07 05:29:06 · update #1
Maybe you were trying to trap him into marriage. That is what he has on his mind. That is deceitful. Shame on you. I would leave him alone for a while, to see if he contacts you. If he doesn't, then that is your answer. Give it a couple weeks. You asked for this anyhow by not staying on the pill. What were you thinking.!!!!
2007-03-07 04:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sounds like you were trying to make a reason for him to stay and using the possibility of pregnancy as a trap. You don't even know if you are pregnant so you shouldn't be putting that in his mind at all. If you are, it's probable that he still won't want anything to do with you. Even though you are both responsible for the child, he was operating under the assumption that you were continuing with your birth control, while you were knowingly going without it.
If you are in fact pregnant you may have to get a lawyer to contact him. If you're not, leave the guy alone; it's doubtful he wants his significant other to be that manipulative.
2007-03-07 12:28:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are putting the bull before the horns. Take a pregnancy test and if it comes back positive, tell him in person. Bringing a child into the world is not something you can not answer the phone over or not take messages over. It is the most important thing you will ever do in your life. It takes maturity and a lot of money.
You need to grow up and get your stuff together and if you are not pregnant. Learn from this one and dont do this again.
2007-03-07 12:14:17 · answer #3 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl leave it alone until you know for sure that you are. And if you are don't expect him to be there. You should tell him anyway if you are. And if you are don't be surprise if he don't 100% believe it's his. I think you want to be pregnant by this person for you could have a hold on him some how. I don't think this person wants to be with you, I think your chasing him. That don't make you a bad person. Maybe he knows that your not a healthy match for him. You need to move on today.But he doe's have the right to know. And if you are you can find a way to tell him. Show up at his job or school or whatever he doe's to tell him if you have to. Don't fight with him or give him demands, just tell him like a lady.
2007-03-07 12:39:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute--he broke up with you because you might be pregnant? What a JERK!! And what was HE doing when you got pregnant??? He is being very childish. If you really are pregnant, send him a certified letter (so that he has to sign for it and you would have proof that he got it) and let him know. Then he makes the next move. If he chooses not to, then you raise your baby alone. It's not easy but it can be done! I'm doing it! Good luck!!
2007-03-07 12:27:47 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a test and know whether you are or are not pregnant. Then, leave him alone! Why would anyone want someone who doesn't take care of their children. The fact that you knew he left his last girlfriend while pregnant shows a certain amount of low-self esteem on your part. No one needs that kind of drama. Especially a child caught in the middle.
Bottom line-You know the kind of man he is- call it the way you see it in life! Sometimes we fall for people who are just not good for us. It sounds like this is one of those times for you. Resolve this with him and move on to someone who is more deserving of you!!!
Good luck.
2007-03-07 14:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by sandra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant, then he has a right to know but seeing as you have seen his reaction, you shouldn't expect much from him. I would tell him once you're sure, let him know your plans and ask him what he intends to do. If he still doesn't respond then it's clear he wants nothing to do with you or the baby. For now, I would leave him be, he knows how to contact you if he is concerned. Hopefully, you are not pregnant so you can move on. Good Luck!
2007-03-07 12:17:32 · answer #7 · answered by lovin' life... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW. Your in a hell of a pickle. Yes he has a right to know if he is gonna be a father. Part of this is your bad for not using any birth control. You should wait until you find out if you are indeed pregnant. If your not you just dodged a huge bullet. Lean from this then move on. If you are pregnant just because hes not there physically you should get his *** for child support.
2007-03-07 12:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by UnderTigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bother until you know for sure if you are or aren't pregnant.
If you do find out that you are, it's still your responsibility to let him know he is the father. Even if he doesn't like it now, he may change later and become an awesome father. Believe me, it happens. But if you don't tell him at all, you'll never give him that chance to prove himself worthy.
Just wait it out a bit though hun. Hope all goes well for you! â¥
2007-03-07 12:14:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him if I was pregnant and then I would follow it up with I tried to tell you but you were not understanding and i don't need you at all. Honey you need to get over him and go on with your life. Yes he does have the right to know bu if he is going to act like that he don't need to know. But then again maybe he is just scared and don't know what to do himself. Have someone you know go to him and talk to him t see what he has to say and where you stand. GOOD-LUCK
2007-03-07 12:35:17 · answer #10 · answered by dyersburgdelilah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋