Help! My wife thinks I'm boring.?

Question

I'm not really great with small talk, and its driving my chatty wife crazy. What are some interesting things we can talk about (and pretend I came up with) that don't involve sports or TV?

Answer 1

Think about what you do together as a couple. If you go for walks (for example) try commenting on the plant life/passerbys/fresh air/need for new walking shoes/etc. Do you share a common interest? Subscribe to a magazine on the subject and talk about what you read inside. If you can't think of one that is fitting, try the Reader's Digest. Short articles on many different subjects, and the bonus of having new jokes to share. ;) Should none of this fit your current life, you might want to try taking up a joint hobby - sea kayaking/bobsledding/woodworking/etc. Hope that gives you some food for thought..and for conversation! :)

Answer 2

I say try taking her somewhere you both will enjoy (like a play or a ballet or a comedy show) and that will give you lots to talk about!

Or just start with the regular, "How was your day babe?" And go from there. Take an interest in what she says and ask questions and tell her how your day was - in the long version! Don't just say, "Oh fine, and yours." She asked cause she really wants to know. So tell her! Keep talking.

Hope this helped and hope all goes well! ♥

Answer 3

Instead of sitting around and chatting about nothing, why don't the two of you do something together like cook a meal, take a walk, or do an easy activity like bowling? If you do some things together, then you'll have more common ground (not involving sports & TV).

Answer 4

I'm quoting Dr. Dobson but conversation is like playing catch with someone. Answer questions with more information than yes or no. Offer your opinion. Find some things that you and your wife are both interested in. Accept that some people are more talkative than others and you will both have to make some concessions. It's just as bad to try to talk to someone who won't talk back as it is to want some peace and quiet from someone who won't quit talking.

Answer 5

How about each of your hopes and dreams? Sounds dorky, but she really wants to know these things about you. Favorite likes and dislikes, food is a good topic, and family issues. My husband is the chatty one here and bombards me with talk all the time. Funny that we're opposite of your situation. He drove me crazy for years until I realized all he wants is to know me better than anyone. Now he does and I'm not so sure he likes it! :)

Answer 6

First, you should find out what your wife is interested in. Be honest and tell her you would like to converse more but you are not sure what to talk about.

Answer 7

Talk about other things she enjoys.. maybe hobbies of hers... friends of the family.. you know stuff like that... Discuss her day at work.. see if there's anything you all can plan for the weekend. Just hang in there... The conversation will come naturally... Hopefully.. I'll keep my finger's crossed for you :-)

Answer 8

Talk about the furniture or decorations in your house. Talk about getting a pet. Take some golfing or tennis lessons together. Talk about where you want to live when you retire.

Answer 9

let her know that you like her chatting and you like listening to her, try to ask her questions about her, your home plans, vacation ideas...
When she asks you a question about your day, work or food choice try to talk about some small incident a phone call or some thing that happened in your day, she does not want to hear much just something from you to feel connected.

Answer 10

You can't pretend to be something your not..............it won't work who you are is who you are...........so what she thinks your boring as long as she loves you and whouldn't do anything to hurt you.......why don't you two try going somewhere that you both will enjoy...have some fun