How long should you date someone before you marry them? Guys, how long would you wait to ask a girl to marry you? Would the amount of time you went out with her matter even if you knew you were really in love with her? Women, if he proposed to you, would you say no because it was too early? Does anyone believe in love at first sight?
2007-03-07 03:38:44 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do NOT believe in love at first sight. I generally have a 2 yr rule for marriage - before that it's too soon to really know if it is going to last. If you love each other it does not hurt to wait until you're sure - neither one of you intends to go anywhere anyways.
2007-03-07 03:43:17 · answer #1 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it really depends on the couple. Some people know they are going to get married right away, while for others it takes a long time. Some couples know they never want to get married, but still want to remain together. I think the reason the divorce rate in this country is so high is because so many people get married before they are ready or before they know what they really want. People are in a relationship for a while, they don't want to break up and so they automatically think, "well, I guess we better get married." These marriages never last because it's based on convienience and comfort not love, respect, and devotion to one another. I would never marry a man unless I knew in my mind without a reasonable doubt that the union would work and I was really ready. I would also make sure we had some important conversations about kids (do we want them or not), finances (not very romantic, I know, but important nonetheless), living location, career choices, religious faith, importance of family, etc. You have to be compatible with the other person in many different areas (perhaps in areas you never thought about before). As for your last question--I'm not sure I believe in love at first sight. I think that's something that happens in books and in the movies, but hopefully there is someone out there who can prove me wrong.
2007-03-07 04:06:35 · answer #2 · answered by spyhopper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a guy proposed to me I would definitely say no if I didn't think we were ready and had talked about things ahead of time. I wouldn't be angry or anything, I'd just tell him that we needed to talk and get to know each other better before rushing into anything.
No, I don't believe in love at first sight. Love develops over time. You can have instantaneous chemistry with someone, but that doesn't mean you love them.
2007-03-07 03:46:19 · answer #3 · answered by weirdiscomplimentary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your age. The younger you are, the more time you need to give it. Once you reach a certain age, you'll truly know when it is right or when it is not, and not just based on your hormones, and then there is truly no time limit.
But with that said, I think that everyone should date for at least one year before getting married, and during that year try to find out as much as possible about each other, and even have the difficult conversations you may not feel like having for fear of spoiling you relationship. But ultimately, it is better to have a bad relationship....than a bad marriage.
2007-03-07 03:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by flyhasitall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well miss how long you wait is tottally up to you. Marraige is a huge commitment and both of you need to think the same way about it before you do it. I myself do indeed believe in love at first sight. Also what makes a relationship work is love, trustworthy, commitment, honesty, and togetherness. I myself have never been a relationship, but I help people as much as I can. If you ever have any more questions please feel free to ask I will gladly do my very best to help. CONGRATS!
2007-03-07 04:00:01 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Niceguy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated by ex-wife for 6 years before I married her. When I first saw her it was not love at first sight--it was weak legs. It is not that I don't believe at love at first sight. I just believe in taking a second look.
2007-03-07 03:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would largely depend on the relationship and how it has matured. Also, for example, I don't want to get married at least until I have finished college and have a good job. Don't you have some idea in your head as to what goals need to be achieved prior to marriage?
2007-03-07 03:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by Chris R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, for me, it would depend on if you really can see yourself being with this man for a long time. i know that when i will get proposed to (in the future) that i would accept it if i really care for this person, and can have trust in them. If you dont love him, or if you have second thoughts about them, and what may happen in like a couple months from now, i would say to hold off. other wise- have fun!
2007-03-07 03:44:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you would know, if you feel that the guy you're with is the one for you and you can't see yourself with someone else then it doesn't matter how long you know each other.
I was with this guy for 6 years, he was great but it was just fun and games i couldn't see myself with him for the rest of my life.
I met another guy and 2 months in to the relationship i knew that he was he one.Now I'm happily married to him for 3 years.
2007-03-07 03:44:16 · answer #9 · answered by ELEN G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on each couple---there's not just a general time. Yes! I believe in love at first sight!!!
2007-03-07 03:41:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ema Nova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋