I have had this crazy wild Vegas affair every year for like 4 years with this same guy. We work at a convention every april and we go to see shows, dinners, everything. Its crazy and its a secret. (I work the convention with my family and he works for the extended family)
THIS year, my boyfriend that I now live with, has been invited to work the convention with me.
Soooo that means that my wild affair guy will be there too. I already told affair guy that I have a boyfriend and nothing can happen and he accepts that.
But should I tell my boyfriend that he will be working side-by-side with this man? Wait til the convention is over?
Im worried that if I tell him before hand he wont be nice to this guy, will be mean to me all week, etc.
When do I tell my boyfriend about this past love? Do i ever?
2007-03-07 03:35:58 · 11 answers · asked by SecretSquirrel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i don't think it's a good idea to tell him that (as long as you did NOT cheat on him).
what for? really, there is no need.
besides, the guy was not even your boyfriend.
it's all in the past now, so leave it at that.
2007-03-07 03:41:37 · answer #1 · answered by daydream13 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him. Would you rather it come out another way?
You should break up with your boyfriend if you're having an affair. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel if he had been jerking you around for four years without you knowing? Don't make him work next to this guy without a clue.
2007-03-07 11:40:31 · answer #2 · answered by Winette 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not his business. It was before he was in your life.
There's no common courtesy rule here that you need to follow. Besides, its only going to upset the boyfriend. You did the right thing by telling the former fling that it can't go on. You've done your part.
Relax and have a good trip with the boyfriend.
2007-03-07 11:55:50 · answer #3 · answered by jlonva 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it is necessary to tell your boyfriend AS LONG AS you didn't cheat on him with this man and as long as your relationship with this other man is already over... I think it would cause tension, and as long as you and your "affair guy" aren't flirting or having a relationship anymore... the past is past... things can be a lot worse!
2007-03-07 11:41:17 · answer #4 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are sure wild affair guy won't say anything don't rock the boat but if your not sure if he will say something i would tell him before he does
2007-03-07 11:45:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmph common sense tells me yeah since he will tell what happened between you two anyways
2007-03-07 11:40:20 · answer #6 · answered by spiritualism0 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont, unless you all are joking around and then you say,
Oh , i used to date him yrs ago before i hooked up with you.
But let it go and you all get along and dont provoke such
negative intentions.
2007-03-07 11:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If this happened before you was with him, then what does it matter. Leave it in the past where it happened at.
2007-03-07 11:43:08 · answer #8 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's going to know. One way or the other
2007-03-07 11:43:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes
2007-03-07 11:39:47 · answer #10 · answered by Michael F 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋