see i have been dating this guy for 4 years and 4 months now and well 2 years ago he cheated on me and well about a year ago he did it again with the same girl and she got pregnant and now the baby is 2 months old and she says its his but he says it isn't. Since then i haven't been able to trust him and he wants me to. I'm beginning to think that the relatoinship is just not going to work. He wants to make it work but i'm not sure i do. After getting hurt like i did i'm just to scared to trust him and to try to make it work. Lately we have been getting along really well and he spends all his time with me. But i have built this brick wall up and when he starts to get close i keep on pushing him away. Do u think the relationship is over or do u think we can work this out?
2007-03-07 03:31:48 · 13 answers · asked by biggest_duke_fan_ever@yahoo.com 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ah sweetie, I think you already know the answer to this dont you?? What would I do if it was me... the first time I would probably do as you have and let him have the benefit of the doubt but a second time is just too much especially as now he has a baby to another woman while he's been with you, darling that is bang out of order, I would never forgive him and I would have long walked by now. Saying that its easier said than done.
You dont deserve to be treated like this, to be disrespected and to live your life with a guy who has a child running around that he made while with you.
On the other hand people have come through it. Listen to your heart darling, do what you feel is right.
Good luck
2007-03-07 03:39:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first he needs a DNA test. but if he cheated on u more than once then u know he will do it again and if they have a kid together they proboly r still sleeping to gether get out hes a lier and a cheater he WILL NEVER change so so what u know u should do get out u dont need us to tell u that and i know for me it was 8 years i went threw it and now i have a 4 year old i put up that wall and it will NEVER come down cause the minute u think hes lieing again your relationship will go sour get out befor u get prego and then u r stuck
2007-03-07 03:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by amymamagurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's over because he has a child and he needs to care for it and not deny that he's the father. he needs to take that responsibility. I don't think that your relationship will last because he cheated on you two times after telling you tha he would never do it again the first time.
Can you trust him?
2007-03-07 03:35:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your better off leaving him. In order to make it work it is a total nightmare. you never get the trust back once it is gone it is gone for good. you put up that brick wall you cant tear it back down
2007-03-07 03:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by christina m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have dumped him after the first time. You took him back and he did it again. End this now, tell him that you can never trust him and dump his sorry ***. There are plenty of men who can be faithful to you.
2007-03-07 03:39:42 · answer #5 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF he did really cheat you twice that a big problem so i advice you to leave him cause if u didnt he might get with ya u know what i meen just ......u might get pregnat from him so look for another bf (boy freind) ya and tell your boy freind that i am telling him you jerk dont cheat
2007-03-07 03:40:23 · answer #6 · answered by abdalla m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's two sayings, ''Once a cheater always a cheater'' and '' Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice , shame on me'', DONT ever get back with that loser, he's going to cheat on you again and again. Dump his loser a** out the door , and find someone else. who's a hero, not a zero.
2007-03-07 05:10:57 · answer #7 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you try your level best,its not going to work out.
2007-03-07 03:35:54 · answer #8 · answered by ANU U 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if he cheated once, maybe, but twice...I'd leave him.
You deserve WAY better.
2007-03-07 03:35:48 · answer #9 · answered by christine_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
once a cheat always a cheat, he done it not once, but twice and he will do it again.
2007-03-07 03:35:21 · answer #10 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋