Going to a thing in a month I work every year. Like an art convention. The last 3 years I have had a fling with another person who works there with me. I spoke to guy "A" and he understands Im in a relationship this year etc. We had a really really deep connection and pretty much fell in deep love/infatuation.
Well, this year my now bf (who I live with) is working it with me. Guy "A" will be there too.
Do I tell my bf about this guy and our past? Or tell him after the week is over and he doesnt have to work with him anymore?Would it be betrayal if i didnt tell him right away? Or for his own good?
2007-03-07 03:20:07 · 7 answers · asked by SecretSquirrel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to tell him cause a good relationship will only work with honesty, it dont matter when you tell him as long as you do it will be fine.
2007-03-07 03:26:10 · answer #1 · answered by Michael F 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one. If you tell him before you go, he may be uncomfortable around guy 'A'. But, if you don't tell him and he finds out from someone else (not necessarily guy 'a') at the show, he may be kind of upset about that. Why would you tell him after the convention was done?
I would just tell him that you had a short relationship with the guy and you are over it before you go.
Good Luck.
2007-03-07 11:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by Jo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was your boyfriend and you told me afterwords, or didn't tell me and I found out. I dump you.
That's because I don't like being a fool, I don't lie and I wouldn't do that to someone else. So being as I'm up to the plate on my own ethics I would understand exactly why someone wouldn't tell me. I'm not a hedge bet.
2007-03-07 11:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly sweetheart you should be very honest with him. It wouldn't be fair. I mean if that was him in your spot now you would want to know right? Instead of having to meet him over there be all cool with him and later find out that you slept with him. It's not fair he should know and then he won't be upset at you later for not coming clean with him in the first place.
2007-03-07 11:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Miss Self-Sufficient 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guy "A" already knows about your boyfriend, and he can keep good secrets, then talk to guy "A" and let him know that he is going to be working with your bf, and tell him to KEEP HIS MOUTH SHUT. What your bf don't know, won't hurt him!
Don't tell your bf about guy "A". Telling him will just cause hurt, jealousy and confusion, so DON'T tell him.
Cheers
2007-03-07 11:26:36 · answer #5 · answered by Daft One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby if you love this guy u should tell him before he meet this dude. And if he lves you he should not get mad at you for dating this man before him. Telling him now would make it eaiser for you bith later on in life. And i would tell him just in case the other dude tell him. And then you will be in trouble big time
2007-03-07 11:36:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him be4 he finds out another way then he will be real upset that u didnt come to him and tell him
2007-03-07 11:26:14 · answer #7 · answered by sweetpea25609 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋