I've a gf for 18 mths then we broke up. She is a christian while i'm not. we have been happy(arguments occasionally) for 17 mths and suddenly she told me she wanted to break off with me because she doesn't wan to disobey GOD.
because there is this saying "we are not (according to scripture) to be unequally yoked, for what does light have in common with darkness? that's why she did that.
do u think it's very unfair for me? i didn't know about this at all until she told me the day we are going to break up. she asked me why i can't accept god's love? cause i find that i can't have the determination to go to church every weekend.
sometimes i wonder if she is too obsessed with god? go to church 2-3 times every week, her room all christian's stuffs, and now she wants me to be a christian. i didn't interfere her as a christian so i don't expect her to ask me to be one.
so now we broke up, should i let her go so that i won't be a burden that will spoil her relationship with god?
2007-03-07 03:13:15 · 14 answers · asked by Peter 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
the love she had for me is not stronger than the one she had for god. so if i converted to be a christian, wouldn't our relationship will be the love for god and not love for each other? the stronger basics in a relationship should be love for each other while others should be 2nd right?
2007-03-07 05:38:37 · update #1
As a Christian she is supposed to put God first. Hopefully she is devout not obsessed. There is a difference. She would want you to become Christian - because her belief states that all non-beleivers are going to hell. That means you too. She wants you to be in heaven with her. Give her some slack on that one - she only wants the best for you.
My husband and I are in an interfaith marriage. He is Christian - I am not. We do just fine, and we also talk about religion often. It is not an avoided topic in our house.
Is the only reason why you wouldn't accept God is because you don't want to go to church? That's not what Christianity is about. It is about having a personal relationship with Jesus. That's what she's getting at.
It sounds like you don't approve of Christianity and didn't really support her. Which is why Christians are told not to be with unbelievers - so they won't be dragged down by condemnation. It's not the end all be all - and many are in interfaith marriages today. I think for you though, it is not a possibility at this time, and you should just let her go.
2007-03-07 03:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm speaking from the heart and being honest about it on this one...
It was most likely for the best that you all did break up. It's not a factor of her being obsessed with God. It's about her lifestyle being challenged. She is a believer and you aren't. No matter what happens between you two, that will be an obstacle. One will eventually sway the other. You will either pull her to questioning her belief, or vice-versa. She may have realized that you two will not be travelling in the same direction, and she may not be strong enough to lead you into walking with her in faith.
That being the case, it was probably for the best. I hope you learn to submit yourself.
2007-03-07 11:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by se-ke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should have told you sooner but as a Christian I've dated a couple non-Christians and now I'm glad it didn't work out. My current boyfriend is not only a Christian but the same denomination (pentecostal) which gives us a lot more in common.
No she's not too obsessed with God....when you Love Him with all your heart, you find actually you have more love to give to others because He constantly refills the love you have and makes it grow.
And trusting in the Lord isn't about going to church. I go because I want to.. Love of Jesus gives you that desire to be with God's people and to learn more about him.
2007-03-07 11:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jan P 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think her decision had anything to do with religion at all, since she dated you for over a year knowing that you weren't a Christian. She just wanted an excuse to get out of the relationship. I would say let her go, but it seems that she's already gone - if she truly loved you, your two different beliefs wouldn't keep you apart.
2007-03-07 11:20:52 · answer #4 · answered by Persephone 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should probably let it go for yourself. The person you should be with should accept you for who you are. If you pursue a relationship with this person they will not accept you unless you pretend to believe what they do and are willing to make her beliefs a major part of your life as well. To be truly loved you should not have to pretend to believe in something you do not and you should find someone who accepts you as you are. I think over time you might grow to resent her intolerance for other viewpoints. The right person for you is out there. Be grateful you now know this isn't the right person and don't waste more time trying to make something that is wrong work.
2007-03-07 11:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Zen Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is strong in her faith. I do think you are confused though. Just because she maybe goes to church that much doesn't mean you have to. There's nothing that says you have to go to church every moment possible but if you accepted Jesus as your Savior you would want to go more and more. I was agnostic and became a Christian. The more my faith grew the more I wanted to learn. It's ok to question and learn. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-07 11:20:24 · answer #6 · answered by shmoo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your blessed to have e this girl in your life. Being a Christian don't mean you have to go to church, or fill your room with Christian stuff. binge a christian is simply excepting a free 'gift' from our heavenly father, and that free 'gift' is Jesus,excepting him in your heart, for forgiveness of ALL sin in our life. How you act after you except your free 'gift' only God knows, but their no requirements, only a heart of want to's....Get her back ...Go and bear fruit(souls)
2007-03-07 11:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by ljgrayllll 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You should let her go - for yourself. She's a fanatic and she wouldn't be satisfied until you converted. This would force you into being a hypocrite and living a lie just to please her. This is a very selfish attitude. She doesn't really care about you, just satifying the requirements of her cult.
2007-03-07 11:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're better off without her, clearly.
Next time you hook up, you might want to ask a few questions first. Use this as a learning experience.
2007-03-07 11:26:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you because you lost a great girl. True Christian girls will be faithful and honest and loyal to Christian guys. You would be a burden to her. Be nice, forget her or take her faith as your own. These seem to be your only choices.
2007-03-07 11:21:04 · answer #10 · answered by martha d 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋