I have a personals ad and I mention not wanting a man with small children. I have one child myself that is almost grown and being 40 I really don't want to take on small children, especially 2 or 3 of them. I tried going out with a guy who had 2 children and he was always too busy with them to call or go out. He had joint custody. I began talking to another guy and I asked him about his children. He said he had 2 girls that were preteens. I thought that was o.k because I have a girl myself so it's not so bad but after talking to him he sprung on me that he has a toddler son. This is kind of a deal breaker for me. If he would have told me these before I wouldn't have wasted time calling him. Also he kept asking me about my photos and when they were taken and keep asking if they were recent. I could understand this to some point, but this guy only has ONE photo in his profile that is just a headshot so why is he so worried about my pictures?
2007-03-07 03:01:26 · 3 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll deal with your two questions one at a time.
1) The children -- this guy withheld information knowing that he couldn't get his foot in the door if he was honest with you. There's a word for that where I'm from; we call it lying. If he lied to you about this, he'll probably lie about other things. Do you want to be lied to some more? The answer to that question should determine your further dealings with this man.
2) The pictures -- he's asking about your pictures because he wants to know that you still look that good (understandable, considering how many people misrepresent themselves in personals ads). But combined with his own one photo that doesn't tell much, it may mean that he's holding you to a higher standard than he wants to be held to. If you decide to maintain contact you should insist that he send you a recent full-length photo of himself. If he balks, you know that he's up to no good.
2007-03-07 03:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by D'archangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A male friend of mine is on a few dating sites and he has met alot of ladies online....he has told me that most of them look nothing like their photos.
It seems alot of people (both men and women) put younger photos of themselves online that were taken ten years previously. Maybe this guy has had similar experiences.
At any rate, just ask him why and I'm sure he's bound to tell you.
I really don't know why people on these sites have to tell half truths in any case. I mean, he should've been upfront about his toddler....
It's not all bad though. I met my guy online and we're both happy so, just hang in there. You're bound to find someone who has nothing to hide.
2007-03-07 11:10:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idea, just ask him
2007-03-07 11:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Fr3e@K3D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋