My EX told me that he never loved his ex (the relationship right before ours) -- and they lived together for 4 years! How could he have never been in love with her (cmon, 4 years?!)? I should've seen that as the biggest RED flag ever (but I didn't). Before her, he said he never had a relationship that lasted more than 3 or 4 months. I was with him for nearly two years, and he never once said he loved me. I know now that he didn't. What is wrong with this guy? Seriously, what do you guys think is psychologically wrong with him? He told me several times that his dad never loved or respected him (but did love his other brothers -- but he was close with his mom.
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2007-03-07 02:55:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i dont think that you should take it personally. i mean with some people, its harder to say i love you than others. and it might have a lot to do with his childhood and his past relationship. so i really wouldnt take it personally. you could try talking to him.
good luck
i hope this helped
2007-03-07 02:59:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like he can't say the words. He has had all these 3-4 months relationships and either hasn't found someone he can stay with. On the 4 yr one it became a comfortable habit. If you were with a guy for two years and he never spoke the words you might have asked him what his feelings were having his dad being so cruel to him might have just have love type feelings to the rest of his family. He would have to seek therapy to find out for sure.
2007-03-07 12:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have seen this so many times before with some people I know, these guys get with these girls and they do it as a survial skill, you know to have a hot and a cot, occational sex, while still out there doing there thing. It's not right to the person there with and even hurts the girl but its all apart of what they want. and dont care who they hurt in the process, they say what they need to get there foot in the door, then its all down hill from there. You know kind of like con artist.
2007-03-07 11:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a good model to follow some things aren't learned when you are young. Perhaps because this guys dad never expressed or really showed love to this guy he never learned to express or even to experience love himself. It's too bad, because he will never have a lasting relationship until he learns to love not only himself but others as well.
2007-03-07 11:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Dana H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In very plain terms, he's more in love with HIMSELF than anyone else, and focused much more on taking than giving in a relationship.
When asked for some degree of true commitment and reciprocity (all very reasonable in any decent relationship), he bails out, probably with the excuse that he can't stand being "pressured" like that.
It's sad, both for him but especially for the women who fall for him, but he simply may not have very much that's truly worthwhile to give.
2007-03-07 11:11:26 · answer #5 · answered by clicksqueek 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be better to ask yourself the same question. It is not your place to figure out what is wrong with people. We are all messed up to one degree or another. As Jesus said, "First remove the beam that is in your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye."
2007-03-07 11:11:43 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres nothing wrong with him. besides telling the truth and lacking childish emotions, he seems like an ordinary guy.
maybe you were the problem, always telling him that he had issues, just because he didnt love you.
also, when saying he didnt love his ex, EVERY GUY SAYS THAT. what are we going to say "yeah, i loved her alot, we had sex everyday, we could talk about nothing in particular for hours without end..."
no, he's going to tell you what you want to hear, otherwise you will flip out on him.
so before you girls set up your little psycho-emotional traps , think logically (if women can do that) and just shut up.
2007-03-07 11:03:27 · answer #7 · answered by sobrien 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if there is something wrong with him. All that matters is that YOU see the problems of the relationship (I mean 2 years? Come on!--to use your words LOL) and don't repeat them. There is a old saying......"Screw me once, shame on you.....screw me twice...shame on ME." You are allowed one bad relationship. But if you get involved with someone else like him....then you have to wonder about you. Not him.
2007-03-07 11:03:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
some men stay for reasons other than love , he might just like companionship or having a woman take care of the household.
the mom complex can be over the top , where he wont ever be in love with any woman but his mom.iam so glad that u see that it is his problem and not anything u did or didnt do.
2007-03-07 11:01:33 · answer #9 · answered by tanya w 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's quite evident there is some psychological attachment disorder with this guy. Are you a certified psychologist? Don't try to figure him out. Tell him you love him and be on your way, or you to soon will need a shrink!
2007-03-07 11:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by bestlggs 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nothing mentally wrong, just emotionally...I used to be like that--better to be with someone I liked, even though I didn't love...but as it turned out, they weren't Mr. Right, they were only Mr. Not Quite Right, which was why I couldn't love...when Mr. Right came along, not only did I grow into love with him, but I appreciated him all the more...maybe he is still looking for Mrs. Right and just hasn't found her yet.....
2007-03-07 11:05:33 · answer #11 · answered by beetlejuice49423 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋