so my ex broke up with me last november. i was very upset at first but over time i started seeing things about him that bothered me and were at times scary (he's really manipulative) so i believed it was for the best. also because of this, i decided to cut off all ties to him. he called me up in january wanting to be friends but i rejected. we had been friends for 2 years before we went out. and for a period after he broke up with me, he felt as if he had made a mistake. fast forward to now. he's been talking to my friend and asking her how i feel about the whole thing and if i would be willing to talk to him if he called. all this is coming after him and his lastest gf broke up. my friend let me read the e-mails he wrote to her and he was talking about how this has "been the hardest thing he has to go through for a long time" and how he "misses hanging out with me". it's so ridiculous.
what do you all think about it?
2007-03-07 02:54:47 · 4 answers · asked by thebodyelectric! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what i can't understand is that he's had a gf all this time (despite what he said about going out with anyone right after we weren't together-he told me if i dated anyone anytime soon after the break up he'd know my feelings for him weren't true and he'd be able to get over it easier.) :S
why does he need me?
2007-03-07 02:56:53 · update #1
I agree with the other poster, the question is long. If he was dating someone and now wants to return to you., he's playing you.
He'll do it again. it seems that he wants you to be his in-between girl, someone to kick it with when he doesn't have anything else going on.
is that what you want to be in his life? The in-tweener? And if he's sending e-mails to your friend that talk about how much he misses you an stuff, do you think there's a possibility that he wanted YOU to see those emails.
Awww, the games men play!?!?!?!? Will it ever stop?
If he was manipulative then, it would be very hard to think that he's changed. You don't really want this guy, you want decent companionship, my advice? Find some guy who is closer to what you want and get to know him slowly. If he demonstrates the characteristics you want in a guy, stay. If he doesn't have what you need and want, leave him alone and don't give up until you find someone decent. In the meantime have fun!
2007-03-07 03:05:37 · answer #1 · answered by TygerLily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex cheated on me for a month before I found out. He may have left to see what was on the other side of the rainbow sort of speak that is why my ex did what he did. He realized what he had and wanted it back but you don't go back in life just go forward. though he may not have cheated on you it is still the same idea. Tell your friends to tell him that you are not interested. Hes doing the email thing to put you on a guilt trip so you take him back though it is your choice. he may do the same thing again and the heartache could be worse.
2007-03-07 11:09:28 · answer #2 · answered by christina m 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he's just trying to play mind games with you, at this point. See how he is now communicating with your friend? Yeah, this guy is somebody to avoid. Just tell your friend that you don't want further updates on the ex and his "feelings"; he'll move on, and you definitely should as well.
2007-03-07 11:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
question is toooooo freaking long. Got bored and moved on.
2007-03-07 10:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by dirtmojo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋