am i still able to get a abortion?

Question

im 15 and the dads 17 he dont want the baby, im so scard! im 2 month preg and from what people like my cousion and mates have told me i shouldnt keep it although i realli want 2! how long do i have to decide weather or not to abort the baby?

Answer 1

unfortuantely, yes.

Answer 2

I would talk to a doctor about how many months that a female can get an abortion. Your feeling scared is very understandable though please do talk with a professional without delay, if even to discuss your fears and concerns. I really wanted to also let you know that while you feel like you want to keep the baby, perhaps thinking that life would be easier instead of working or going to school, or to have someone that will love you basically unconditionally, it's really Not like that. You are going to have a 24/7 job, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. Some people are tired even after an 8 hour a day job, 5 days a week or even a 12 hour a day job, let alone a continuous job.

Please really listen to your cousin and mates' opinions. Perhaps thinking about continually changing dirty diapers after a bowel movement can help, seriously. Nonstop crying and screaming when you are exhausted. Having the child is going to alter your life in so many ways. You are just a child yourself even though it may feel differently to you. And your parents already have raised a child (or children) so I don't know how fair it would be if they would need to babysit while you attend school or whatnot. Daycare costs a lot of money and getting quality services can be extremely difficult as well. Please really look at the big picture and try not to have 'starry eyes'. Wishing you the best!

Answer 3

Please don't listen to the people on here telling you to do one thing or another. They don't know you.

It's great that you have already confided in your cousin and friends but maybe it is time to talk to your parents if you can. I guess that they will have a major role to play if you decide to keep the baby.

My best friend at school fell preganant at 15 and she managed to keep it hidden for so long that it was too late for her to have an abortion. She had a beautiful son and from what I hear is doing ok 12 years down the line. It has been really difficult for her though and she lost a lot of friends - not in a mean kind of way - we just drifted as we just didn't have a lot in common with her any more. But she found a new life - one which we couldn't understand (and we do still speak from time to time).

Anyway, I really hope that you make the right decision for you. And I hope that once you have made your decision (whichever option you choose - and there are many) you are able to move on with your life without the "what ifs".

All the best hon :)

Answer 4

OK, there are two questions here. The answer to one is simple. At two months, you are still able to have an abortion. In the UK abortion is legal up to 24 weeks, although the earlier you have the procedure done the less traumatic it is for you and your body.

The other question is far more difficult to answer. You say you really want to keep your baby, but people are telling you now to. It's the one decision that you really have to make for yourself. You have to take other peoples opinions into consideration, because at 15 years of age you are going to need a lot of support, but the final decision has to be yours. Deciding either way will affect the rest of your life. If you have an abortion you don't want you may regret it for many many years to come, but if you have a baby you're not ready for you may also have years of regret.

I hope you've been able to tell your parents, if you haven't yet then you really should. This is something you need to sit down and talk to them about. If you're afraid to tell them yourself then confide in a responsible adult, maybe a teacher that you trust. I'm a teacher and I know that I would do everything I could to help one of my students break this news to their parents.

Good luck to you and I hope you end up making whatever decision is right for you.

Answer 5

Oh sweetie I am sorry you are having to deal with this at such a young age. People will be negative as well as positive about this but the only one who can really decide is you. If you have a doctor then I strongly suggest you speak to her/him. They can help you with any decisions you may need to make for yourself as well as recommend a counseler. If you don't have a doctor yet then I would suggest speaking to someone from Planned Parenthood @ 1-800-230-PLAN. Or call the National Abortion Federation hotline @ 1-800-772-9100. I am in no way telling you to get an abortion but those two hotlines can you give you better advice and information than I possibly could. I hope everything works out.

Answer 6

Depending on the state you live in you can have an abortion up tell 20 to 21 weeks along. although i would suggest that if you are going to have an abortion you do it sooner rather then later. It will be less traumatic for you if you do it sooner. I should know I had an abortion at 19 wks 3 days, and it was a 2 day proses. I would also suggest that you talk to your parents and let them help you with this decision. It is a hard choice but you need to do what is right for you. So Don't let anyone that dose not know you make this choose for you.
Amyj

Answer 7

first 3 months I think.

no matter what anyone else says, you are the one who will have to live with whatever decision you make.

At 15, what kind of life can you give a baby? You are going to want to do so much more for her than you will be able to do.

Have you considered adoption?? Maybe a family who can provide a loving, stable life for your baby, and give both the baby AND YOU a second chance to grow up better. Think about that!

It's fine to want a family, sure! Make it a goal to reach for someday! But for now, even though you might feel like you can do anything, unless you are somehow independently wealthy and just want a real-live doll baby that really eats and cries and poops and doesn't let you sleep, then you should really consider your options.

Just because you realli want 2 keep it doesn't mean you should take it out on the baby. That is really very selfish.

Answer 8

Don't listen to your cousin or the baby's dad. Do what you feel and believe is right. You are important and your feelings in this matter. Don't ever let another person talk you into doing something that you really do not want to do. If others really love you and care, they will respect you regardless of what choices you make. If you must get an abortion in order for your family or boyfriend to love you, then you are better off without them. Remember, what your boyfriend did to you is the mistake, not the baby.

Answer 9

Well as far as I know, UK law says up to 3 months, any time after that and there must be medical reasons. I feel that I should say something though. You shouldnt be having intercourse at your age, especially if you havent thought about using the proper precautions. You are still a child yourself , there is plenty of time for things like that!

Im sure you are probably scared, but please try and talk to someone! The longer you leave it, the worse of you may be. Speak to your doc immediately. You surely dont want to jeprodise your chances of becoming pregnant in the future so the faster you talk to a medical professional, the better. Or why not speak to a guidance teacher , someone you may have respect for who can offer some help?

Good luck.

Answer 10

Abortion laws vary by state, but you do NOT have to kill your baby! I understand that you are scared right now, but you need to be strong and protect your child. Your baby's life is at stake, and that is more important that what your boyfriend or your friends say. In your heart, you KNOW the right thing to do. Your baby is totally innocent and depending on you for protection. Keep her safe.

At 2 months, your baby has a beating heart, recordable brain waves, and tiny fingers and toes. If her cheek is stroked, she will turn her head. If her palm is pricked, she will open her mouth and pull her hand away. She is fully-formed, and all her organs are functioning. She can even suck her thumb. You can see photos of what your child looks like right now here:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

And see photos and videos of aborted babies at 2 months here:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

Abortion is very dangerous for you as well. The abortionist must first force open your cervix, which is very tightly closed to protect the baby. This can result in tearing and permanent damage. He then inserts a sharp-tipped suction tube into the womb and turns on suction 30 times more powerful than a vacuum cleaner. The suction tears the baby apart and pulls her out of your womb. He then inserts a curette (a loop-shaped steel knife) into the womb to scrape out any remaining parts of the baby and the placenta. Some abortionists use only the curette to cut apart the baby rather than using suction. Abortion is a "blind procedure." The abortionist cannot see what he is doing after he inserts the sharp instruments into your womb, but must go by "feel." As a result, he can puncture your uterus, bowel, or bladder. Here is more information on abortion risks and deaths:
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/complicationsgirls.cfm
http://afterabortion.info/complic.html
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html

Here is a video of a first trimester abortion (warning, very graphic):
http://www.cbrinfo.org

You can read stories from women and girls who have aborted here:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-G-2-testimony.html
http://www.teenbreaks.com/abortion/girlswhoaborted.cfm

You can receive free, confidential help at a crisis pregnancy center. They can give you referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds (at some centers); free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; and counseling and emotional support. You can find one in your area by calling 1-800-395-HELP or visiting
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp (US)
http://www.heartbeatinternational.org/worldwide_directory.asp
(worldwide)

Here's another great site for support from other currently and formerly pregnant teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

You can do the right thing.

Answer 11

It depends on where you live. In Massachusetts in the US you can have an abortion up until the 24th week. That also goes for most of if not all of the USA. go to a search engine and type in
abortion laws in _____ *where ever you live*

If you want to have an abortion make sure its what you really want. No one can force you to have one if you dont want one. If someone takes you to get one and you dont want one just tell the doctor who does it or a nurse thats there and they can not give you the abortion.

No one can tell you you cant have an abortion if you want one. If you live in the US (you will find this with the abortion laws) in most states atleast one of your parents needs to be informed that you are having an abortion and in some states you may even need their permission. but like i said you can find all the info you need just go to google and type in Abortion laws in ________