What do we put on our wedding invitations?

Question

My fiance's (the bride) parents did give us a little money, and my parents are going to pay for about half of the reception hall. I know it is custom to put the bride's parents as the one's that are inviting people to the wedding, but my parents are actually putting up more money than them, and my fiance and I are putting up the most. I obviously don't care to put it from us, and I don't know how to not upset either parents. What should we do???

Answer 1

You can put:

BRIDE & GROOM

Together with their Parents
invite you to celebrate...blah blah blah

Answer 2

The names on the invitation doesn't really correspond with who pays how much. But here are some options for you:

1. Traditional. No one questions it because it's traditional:
Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their daughter
Bride's Name
to Groom's Name
son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents.

2. Issue the invitation yourself. Might upset all parents, though:
Bride
and Groom
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage ...

3. List all parents as hosts. It can sound a little wierd, but it's what I did and it made everyone happy. But the bride's parents always go first:

Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents
and Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents
request the pleasure of your company
at the marriage of their children
Bride's Name
and Groom's Name
...

Answer 3

My Fiance' and I are getting married in June. Similar situation. We paying for some of the wedding too. The Invitations : If you so choose put the parents names and that they invite you to join the in the marriage of their daughter to you. put the date,time, and location, and at the bottom to save $ put reception to follow at the location that way you don't half to spend $ on reception cards. It's a stressful planning time but relax it's all for the best. Remember do the best that you can. It's you and your fiance's wedding.

Answer 4

I didn't even mention parents' names on my invitation, just because I think it's kinda silly, plus his parents are dead.
So here is my wording:

GROOM'S NAME
and BRIDE'S NAME
request the pleasure of your company
at their marriage
on Saturday, the twenty-first of April
two thousand and seven
at three o'clock in the afternoon
at the The Lost Whale Inn,
3452 Patrick’s Point Drive
Trinidad, CA

And the RSVP is like this:
R.S.V.P.
(Please respond by April 1)
___ will attend with pleasure
___ must decline with regret
# of guests ______

Although, if I had to do it over again I would make it a bit more clear because people always get all confused when they see # of gests, they wondwwr if they should include themselves or not, so you might want to put "# of people attending" or # (including yourself" or something.

Of coarse, if you come uninvited, I will have snipers positioned on the roof to take you out :) Cheers!

Answer 5

you can either put both sets of parents as the invitees... or do the traditional way of putting the brides parents.... or put yourselves along with your parents.... see below:

Mr and Mrs John Doe
and
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith
cordially invite you to the wedding of their children
Jane Anne Doe
and
James Michael Smith

or

Mr and Mrs John Doe
cordially invite you to the marriage of their daughter
Jane Ann
to
James Michael
son of Mr and Mrs Robert Smith

or

Jane Ann Doe and James Michael Smith
along with their parents
Mr and Mrs John Doe
and
Mr and Mrs Robert Smith
cordially invite you to their wedding

You can find out lots at places that do invitations... they'll have TONS of options... even if you're doing them on your own, you can go there and look (although i wouldn't tell them that's what you're doing.)

Answer 6

I often see both sets of parents names on the invitation, I think it should be that way. If you aren't sure how to word it, ask someone at the place where you are getting them done. They should have a bunch of samples. Usually its Mr. & Mrs. Smith parents of Daughter Smith and Mr. & Mrs Whoever parents of Son Whoever invite you to...
They only way you will upset either set of parents is to leave their names off. Don't make it about who is spending what, be respectful and inlcude both parents.

Answer 7

why not have it from both parents, or, from the family of...

it is a tough situation, the kind that you would see on "everybody loves Raymond" except its you who is going to take the kick in the pants (since, your the groom)

so get ready to be hated by someone, and probably your soon to be wife as well. (even though she wont help the problem, just blame you for it)


or, you can sit down with both parents (separately!!) and discuss the issue. one of them will be understanding enough to give in.

if not, well, then everything is going as it should be, a complete disaster

Answer 8

You could say...


Jane Marie Smith

and

John Allen Doe
along with their parents.....


or you could put both of your parents on there


Mr & Mrs John Smith

and
Mr & Mrs Bill Doe
invite you to join as

Jane Marie Smith
and
John Allen Doe


Become one.....


good luck...if you find you dont like these wordings most of the invitation websites do have wording ideas as well

Answer 9

How you word the wedding invitations has NOTHING to do with who is paying for what. Use the traditional wording, if that is what you want:
Jane Ellen Doe,
daughter of Fred and Helen Doe
and
Joe George Cool,
son of John and Irma Cool
request the honour of your presence..... etc.

Answer 10

Traditionally the person who is paying goes first. Whether it be the couple, the brides paretns or the grooms parents.

If all 3 are contributing then the brides should go first.

If you are paying for most of it yourself then you could leave your parents off altogether.

Answer 11

Mr. and Mrs. Christopher Myers
and
Mr. and Mrs. Kwame Johnson
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their children
Anne Catherine and Theodore Joseph
etc.

Together with their parents,
Anne Catherine Myers
and
Theodore Joseph Johnson
request the honor of your presence
etc.