Now he said he thinks we did it to fast, I mean i have done everything he asked. really do not know what but now he seems un-happy and its making me un-happy. i Know if i deside to move out there is a chance i will not see him as often plus he iwll go out with his friends. ( his friends are not the greatest people ) Im not sure what to do. Plus if i move out and go live with my grandma who could use my help my father will get mad. Im 18 I been living on my own for over 5 months now. I don't know what to do.. i don't want to loose him or make my dad made. so what should i do??? please help..
2007-03-07 02:34:42 · 10 answers · asked by twistedinlime 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have much to realize. I say realize because within your letter I see that life is trying to teach you lessons which you only need to realize.
You say that you have done everything that your boyfriend wants and he isn't satisfied. Don't you realize that this is the way of things. You can do everything perfectly and it still won't be enough to satisfied someone else. That includes your boyfriend, your father and just about anyone else that comes into your life.
So what do you do? Move out of this living arrangement. You will probably lose your boyfriend but you were probably well on your way to losing him anyway. Seriously, if he really loves you would he talk to you the way that he does? Is this the type of person you really want to be with 20 years from now? If it's this bad now what will it be like in 20 years?
Embrace being single. I know that it can be lonely and scary but it can also be the most exciting, profitable time of your life. You are going to change more in the next 4 years than any other time in your life. Get to know who you really are, what you like, what you don't, what you won't put up with and what you will. What are your dreams, your goals. Learn to like yourself. Learn to appreciate yourself. Healthy people are drawn to those who are excited and like themselves. And when you like yourself you are free not have the pressure of pleasing everyone else, something you can not do. You also free others of the burden of having to please you all the time. Something they cannot do.
If you do this, if you spend time (I'm not talking a few hours or days but years) you will find yourself to be much happier and much less likely to be found asking questions on the "Marriage and Divorce" section of thei forum.
Good luck.
2007-03-07 03:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Bud 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should move back in with grandma and tell you dad why you moved back in. tell him that you was in an unhappy situation with an immature guy that didnt know what he wanted, so i left him to think alone. that guy in not ready for a live in girlfriend, that is the problem, you are only 18 and trust me, theyre a lot of guys out there will to treat you better then the next man if you know what i mean. so move out, be stress free, tell your dad why, and move on. also you said you have done everything he wants you to do, seems like you didnt do what you wanted to do. you have a head so use it.
2007-03-07 02:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by soto_a81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is hanging out with bad people, he may not be the right person for you. A mature man who is ready to live on his own with a girl knows how to put her first in all scenarios.
5 months is a long time, I know, and I've had relationships that went 4 years and failed... it hurts bad... but sometimes you just gotta cut it off and break up.
That's option one... break up... and find a guy who can put his friends on the backburner for you... or include you with his friends.
Option 2, is the one I don't want to give you... you can probably keep him and make him happy with a lot more sex, bjs, and entertainment. You have to be more exciting than his friends to peel him away from them.
Honestly, it sounds like he may have his eye on another girl... guys don't TYPICALLY lose interest in the girl they are living with unless they have their eye on another piece of pie.
Good luck, and I hope you go with option one.
2007-03-07 02:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you are young!! You have your whole life ahead of you. If your boyfriend is unhappy with the living situation and it's making you unhappy I would just move in with your grandma. Your dad can't be mad at you forever...so if I were you I would just take a chance.
2007-03-07 02:39:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to ask him why he feels like you moved in togther to fast, and if it is something that u guys can fix without u having to leave then good, but if it comes down to you having to move out then you just have to except it and know that his comfort and opinion is important and that if he loves you, everything will be ok even if you don't live w/ him
2007-03-07 02:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to be living with someone other then FAMILY. You need to move in with your GRANDMA and give her all the help you can.
2007-03-07 02:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that he is not man enough to uphold commitment. If he asked you to move in, and now asking you to leave...then he has a problem. You deserve someone who will stick with you through thick or thin. Please be careful who you give your heart...only give it to people that can be trusted. I would move out pronto...but my heart is not the one involved. I will pray for you.
2007-03-07 02:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by :-) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It loom like you have the same routine every day,do something different every other day, do things that you know will make him happy and want you even more....
2007-03-07 02:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by *Cutie* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try to ask him why did he changed? why he is unhappy? maybe there is another reason behind his behavior.
2007-03-07 02:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
find other
2007-03-07 02:37:37 · answer #10 · answered by keral 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋