we had been dating for 9 months and i found my self treating her bad like if i had dominated her or like if i was the macho man, my self being to her was more of a cold person not lovable meaning not showing her how much i love her.she told me to try and to try to change and so i did but i guess it was not enough.little by little her feelings were changing and now i have lost her. i treated her in the worse way possible and now i realize how she felt. it was not my intention, i love her, she cried alot for me and now i realize how much i hurt her, the way that i am feeling she felt many times. just on monday it was over between us and i went to her house that night and talked to her in every way possible for her to give me a chance and she said that it is to late that she doesnt lov me any more and that she is hurt really bad for the way that i treated her and of my self bein.i do love her,it is my1st relation and find in hard to show her.Do i still have a chance with her?whatcan ido
2007-03-07 02:13:27 · 13 answers · asked by jota 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I say its over. But you have to tell her you where wrong. Tell her your sorry. Learn from this..and goodluck.
2007-03-07 02:18:58 · answer #1 · answered by broc1212 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She may already have somebody new. As the saying goes you don't realize what you've got til it's gone. For 9 mos you treated her like crap, sorry bud but there is no excuse for that. I would have left you a long time ago, not trying to be mean because i'm sure you are hurting. Hopefully you'll use the mistakes you made in your first relationship to be a better man in your next...good luck and i wish you the best.
2007-03-07 10:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by *<dEzI>* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
let me tell you this, when i first got with the man that fathers my child, he done me the same way and i left him and he tried very hard to get back into my heart. deep down inside she still loves you and if it is enough then she will forgive you and give you that second chance. just show her you can be different for her, let her see the changes that you have made. everybody messes up in a relationship it cant always be perfect.....
2007-03-07 10:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by kimberly m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have been in your situation before, just now separated from my second wife. One thing I have learned is that words and how you use them can be worse than physical abuse. Words cut so much harder then anything you can imagine. My advice to you is tell her how sorry you are, how much you love her and how much you have learned from all this and then give her some time to think about it. If you continue to push yourself on her right now it will only drive her away even further.
2007-03-07 10:19:06 · answer #4 · answered by hokiedokie24 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but it seems as though she finally came to her senses and got rid of you. You treated her badly and she asked you to change and you chose not to. Then when you found that you had lost her you decided to try to change. Maybe the next time you have a girlfriend you will treat her better.
2007-03-07 10:19:57 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Probably not, The important thing is that you learn from this experience in future relationships.
So what you have to do now, is move on. I am not saying get yourself into a relationship to quickly, it is to reboundish. take your time, go out with a few women, and dont try to rush a relationship because you want to "do the right thing". God luck, and again try to learn from your mistakes.
2007-03-07 10:19:47 · answer #6 · answered by LoverOfQT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The majority of people cant really change their personality. You are who you are. You need to figure out who you really are and realize whether that's whats she wants. If its so them show her the new you and you might have a chance. If you find out you are a macho personality well you know she doesn't like that so, sorry your out of luck.
2007-03-07 10:19:25 · answer #7 · answered by SE-123 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if u truly loved her from within your heart you would have never hurt her feelings. in true love we try to keep the other person as happy as we can because in their happiness lies our happiness.there should never be any ego feelings or one should not dominate the other. she tried her best to bear everything for the sake of saving the relationship. when you lose only you understood the pain. if u love her truly prove it to her and make her feel that you would never be the same. all the best...
2007-03-07 10:24:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an idiot. Leave the poor girl alone. Let her heal and move on with her life.
You need to move on with your life.
And no, you lost your chance with her when you started treating her like crap.
2007-03-07 10:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by FairyPrincess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You never really loved her if you treated her that way. Don't try. Do her a favor and leave her alone. You can't do anything.
2007-03-07 10:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋