Im dating this girl 4 a week and it took me about 3 months to really get to no her, so i asked her out. one night we were having fun in bed when i told her i love her, she sighed and said nothing till i asked her how she felt, she said its too soon 4 her to say the same with all the stuff shes been through with past boyfriends using her 4 sex, im not in it 4 just that i want a long relationship, i still love her and always will but wat exactly should i do now???
2007-03-07 02:11:00 · 20 answers · asked by nubs2stubs 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give her the time and space she needs to realize her feelings on her own....and be grateful she isn't just mimicking what you said...when she Say's it you will know she really means it.
I nice alternative to tell her might be "I'm crazy about you"...but never say anything TOO often...might make her uncomfortable...
2007-03-07 02:20:07 · answer #1 · answered by Erinyes 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her as you say you do, then you will understand why she doesn't want to tell you she loves you back. I have been where she is and she isn't quite ready to fully give you her heart. I can tell you that she honestly does care a great deal about you, because if she didn't, she wouldn't have been in the bed with you. Just give her some time. That's just something that people who have dealt with bad relationships go through. She will come around. Just don't pressure her with the situation. Just show her how much you really love her and appreciate her for being exactly what she is...a woman. Good women are hard to come by, and sometimes they doubt any man because of past relationships. You seem like a nice, and charming gentleman to me. I wouldn't hesitate to date you myself! LOL! We need more men like you to be honest about their feelings. GOOD LUCK on your relationship! ;-)
2007-03-07 02:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by N0+ 3@$!Ly &R0]{3n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A similar situation happened with me and my bf, except we had been dating 4 months when I dropped the L bomb while we were having fun in bed. His response was "Those are strong words... make sure you mean them before you say them" which TOTALLY ruined the moment. I didn't say it again until he said I love you a month later. And once he said it, he put a stipulation on it. He didn't want to say it all the time b/c it would lose it's meaning... he didn't stick to it though. 4 years later, he says it all the time. Just hang in there. :)
2007-03-07 02:18:50 · answer #3 · answered by kebbs32 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you can fall in love with somebody in 3 months it happened to me i loved them before we were even in a relationship. But for some people it just takes more time especially if they have scars from the past. I guess maybe i just fall to easy. But go on lots of dates,sex and get to know her more and she may trust you enough to tell you she loves you
2007-03-07 02:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try not to push the subject. I understand it can be really hard and hurtful to not hear those 3 words back especially when its your first time saying it to someone. But wouldn't you rather her say it and really truly mean it than rather her say it just to say it. Plus due to the fact that shes obviously been hurt before she might not want to let her guard down as of yet. Give her some time and continue to love her and treat her just the way your are. In time you'll see she'll be ready to open her heart fully to you and say those words to you.
2007-03-07 02:17:27 · answer #5 · answered by h0n3y_l1ps_27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is just a wait and see and hpe for the best. Some people dread hearing that 4 letter word. Some people would dump other people for using it. They feel entrap or are afraid of it or its consequences. A wek is abit soon. You should had waited to say it or wait till she say it first.
2007-03-07 02:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by mr_gees100_peas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you've known her for 3 months you have only been dating for a week it is a little early to say your true feelings out loud - she is insecure because of her past relationships so give her some time
2007-03-07 02:15:57 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? It takes years to truly know someone...not just 3 months. I doubt you are even in love, this sounds like infatuation. She is smart enough to realize that she is not in love with you, and she won't say it unless she is. That is refreshing. You should be happy she isn't lying to you. People are too quick to throw the word 'love' around--it cheapens it for everyone.
For now, give her some space and enjoy the time you do spend together. Don't force her into anything. And work on your spelling and grammar. :)
2007-03-07 02:16:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-11-23 13:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you've been interested in her and have been trying to get to know her that way for three months and she has been seeing u as a bf 4 just a week so u should give her some time i'm sur she'll fall in love with you as she gets to know u better
2007-03-07 02:17:07 · answer #10 · answered by kwlcmmm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋