What can i do to get tha sparks back?

Question

Me and ma boyfriends relationship had been going alright u can say but i have to say its not as exciting as it used to be or fun and interesting....how do i get tha sparks back between us?

Answer 1

When two people get so comfortable and used to each other, the sparks die down, unless you do something about it.

1) Try not to spend so much time together. You will miss him more and be happier to see each other
2) Go to a new place
3) Think of creative ways to have sex. Like new places, in your car at a park, bring toys in, etc.
4) Try something new, like hiking, horse riding, sky diving, roller blading, play tackle football with each other.

There are just so many things. Go to the bookstore and look for books on bringing the sparks back into your relationship. They work and you have fun doing it!

Answer 2

That all depends on where the sparks died in the relationship. Was it in the bedroom? Or was it elsewhere?
If it was elsewhere, try doing little spontaneous things from time to time. You can get so in the habit of day to day stuff that the excitement dies. Plan a picnic at a nearby park(if it's warm enough) and have everything packed and ready to go when he gets home from work. Send HIM flowers, it's unconventional but it's still a nice gesture and cute to boot. Line up a few of his favorite movies for a movie night complete with popcorn and all the goodies. if you're in a place financially that you can, try planning a weekend away (even a resort in town).

If it was in the bedroom. Again, try the little things. Sexy lingerie, maybe in a color you don't normally wear. A new toy (nothing too dirty) here and there. If you were feeling adventurous you could even try role-playing. It's the little stuff that gets the spice back.

Either way, just go slow. Don't start out with anything huge and extravagant. Do the little things and see how things go from there.

Answer 3

How long have you two been together?
Perhaps it's the way you are looking at it. As relationships mature, the dynamics change. You know each other, so there is less to discover.

Does this mean you are doomed to relationship stagnation? No.
This is the time to try new things.

Couples tend to always do the same things. They eat at the same restaurants, go to the same theatre, go through the same motions.

My husband and I would hug & kiss when he went to work, and when he got home, and when we would walk pass each other walking through the house. This started after about 10 years of marriage. Just a kiss.

Now I kiss him like he's the first steak I've had after 20 years' of
chicken. I cook new meals, I ask him to take me to different places.

I change my hairstyle more often (I wear a ponytail), and don't always look the same when he gets home--I always wear jeans and a t-shirt (one day I was wearing shorts, it was about -30 degrees outside). One day I was dressed for a formal event: hair makeup, the works. We had spaghetti at the dining room table. There were candles, and sparkly grape juice.

One morning we went to the beach, and we had a picnic in the car. Wasn't easy, but it was fun. And my husband is one of those practical people.

I wake him up at 3 and 4 in the morning to go have breakfast on his days off from work. Not easy, but once he wakes up, he doesn't mind. Or I wake him up very early, and we go driving through the city while it's asleep, until we find someplace to eat or get coffee.

I don't know how old you are, but list the things you both enjoy, and then work out a new and different way to do them. Basketball at sunrise, or toss a football instead in an open field.

Are you too old for waterguns or water balloons? We have done the football at sunrise, and the waterguns and water balloons.

If it is a hot day, chill the water or the balloons, and keep them in a cooler with ice.

We even have old movie marathons. We start early like 5 or 6, and watch all day. We have popcorn, sandwiches, fruit, etc. throughout the day. I like comedies, this probably shows up in my answers. Even so, we mix it up.

We don't have a car, but sometimes I will rent a car, pick him up from work, and we go someplace for dinner.

Are you going to overlap? Sure, but 100 different things to do can seem like a million if you alternate enough. And occasionally, you may not want to do anything at all.

If you take some time to think about it, you should be able to come up with a lot of ideas. Find what works for you. And have fun!

Remeber: Different. Variations on the things you both enjoy.

Hope this helps!

Answer 4

the sparks only work if both of you wants it

romantic dinner
go on vacation
go out for a good time toghter
get a kiddi pool, put oil in it and oil wrestle in it

Answer 5

How about continuously repeat a question in YA!???

You only need to ask 5 more times in a row for the record. Go for it.

Answer 6

By lighting a new matchstick! Like wisw Get a new man!

Answer 7

Here's an idea: DON'T REPOST THE SAME QUESTION 400 TIMES!

If the thrill is gone, then let it be gone. MOVE ON.