Is He SERIOUS!!!?

Question

He told me he loved me a couple weeks after we met. He said he wanted to marry me less than a month after that. I had to move back to the state where my father lives in another state to finish grad school so we broke up. We didn't talk for 7 months and then he suddenly called me and asked me to marry him. Is he being serious or playing games? I don't understand why a guy that normally is c*cky and has tons of girls would suddenly change and want to get married after only knowing the girl for such a short time. Could he actually mean it?

yea but I was the one that ended things because the state's aren't close by ...(read* over half way across the country) and I needed to focus on school. I didn't say yes to marrying him, but I also am just wanting to figure it out. It seems WAY too soon to me but he seems so heartbroken. I'm worried of each decision and what they mean.

Answer 1

I think you've left way too much information out of your question for anybody to form a truly accurate opinion.

But based on the information you've given, my guess would be that he's obsessed with you because you've managed to resist his charms - charms that work on most women. He's worried that he's losing his mojo, and is clawing desperately at you (i.e., proposing marriage based on very little interaction!) to prove that he's still got it.

Does he mean it? Well, he probably means it for now, but once you give in, thereby validating his appeal and bolstering his self-esteem, he will probably lose interest and go on about testing his appeal on other women.

Answer 2

Sorry to be so blunt, but no man that is serious about loving someone (and wanting to marry them no less!) is going to just break up with the person because they have to move to another state. That's total bullshit sweetheart.

I say you cut your ties and find a man who's actually committed!

*** In response to your additional information...

Before my husband and I got married, he was stationed in Korea... over half way around the WORLD. We were apart for over a year and had no problem keeping our relationship going. I still think you should avoid the guy though. Telling you he loves you after only a couple of weeks and then asking to marry him shortly after is a sure sign of instability. If the roles were reversed and you had told him you loved him after a few weeks, he would have dropped you like a bad habit and wouldn't have stuck around long enough for a marriage proposal. Just food for thought is all.

Answer 3

Yeah, he could mean it. I did.
You need to have a long talk with him before you answer, though. Ask him:
What do you think our life will be like when we are married?
Where will we live?
Do you realize that I'm going to finish Grad School and go to work?
What will we do?
Will we have kids?
Is your career more important than mine?
What do you expect of me?
What can I expect of you?

You really need to learn a lot more about each other.

Answer 4

Many people believe that they find the right one, in just a couple seconds. First try and figure that out. I personally, think that he got tired of playing the game, and he may now be ready to settle down. Then You should be asking if your ready and hes ready? And if you want to marry him? do you love him? GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

I don't know this guy but he can definately be serious. Haven't you ever heard of "True Love". I wanted to marry my wife after dating her for only about 5 weeks. Of course I was nervous so I didn't ask her until we dated for 3 months. We are now going to celebrate our 12 anniversary. Good luck.

Answer 6

No. Run, run far far away from the bad man! Guys like that usually turn out to be abusive and controlling. They start out sweet and nice and slowly separate you from friends and family. It starts with things like "but I miss you" when he calls a dozen times within a three hour span. They're like spiders: once they have you within their grasp it's very very hard to get out of it. Trust me, I've watched too many people I'm close to go through it. They were lucky. They got out.

Don't put yourself in a situation like that no matter how nice he is to you. Irratic movements like sudden 'marry me's' are danger signs. Be wary.

Answer 7

Whether he does or not, this relationship isnt matured enough. Is he crazy? Then 7 months of non talking in the middle? Think about that. Dont leap into a relationship that ull regret

Answer 8

well it doesn't really sound so serious but there's no other explanation why he would still want to get married you after 7 months i think he's really in love with you

Answer 9

Talk to some of his past girlfriends and see if he did the same thing to them if he didn't than he is serious.

Answer 10

Sounds like he really wants to be with you, and he doesn't want to loose you....But to be safe just ask him straight up...is this what you want? to be married to me?