My daughter is going south fast and I need help?

Question

My 17 year old daughter, we live in Planto. Is committing future suicide, can you suggest any counceling, positive help? A little of what she does Failing Staying out late ( I know you will say I should keep her in, but short of a lock and key to leg, she is sneaky) Started smoking Having sex, I think judging by all the Male hispanics who call the house She dresses with lots of skin showing She hates her parents She has one more year in High School, at this rate she will be working a McDonalds for the rest of her life. I wish she could have a realality check; my life in 10 years, or a Dr. Phil. Have any of you turned around a south bound teen, this one is EXTREEMLY STRONG WILLED AND UNFLAPPABLE IN HER DIRECTION. Thank You, you may make a difference.

Answer 1

trying to force her will only push her further away....teenagers always think they know whats right, so when you try and tell them they are doing to wring and tell they what to do they will do the opposite just to spite you. this is multiplied by the fact that she is a women.......women are like children when it comes to a man telling them whats they should do. they will do the complete opposite (to the point of self destruction) just so they can prove that they don't need your advise and they know everything

Answer 2

I had the same problems with my daughter when she was 16. She is now 17 and getting straight A's, working part time, and not having sex again until she's older, doesn't smoke or drink anything anymore. What I had to do was put her in a teenage in hospital program. I'm bi polar and it wasn't found out until i was 35, so i never finished anything, and had a drug problelm most of my life. I now work at a place that allows parents to test children for drugs randomly. She may have some mental health issues, that if are not diagnosed, she will be lucky to work at McDonalds.

Answer 3

Your problem is not uncommon. As far as her clothing is concerned, you can stop that problem by not allowing that type of clothing in your home. I understand that teens are very sly when it comes to sneaking out and giving false information about their whereabouts. Let her know that you will be checking into all "excuses" that she has to offer and let her know that there will be consequences for inappropriate behavior. And stick to it!!

Also, you might want to take her to visit a college campus on a weekend and show her the amount of her peers that are attending college and still have a "life". I know that teens are extremely Strong willed and it seems like they are unchangeable, because I was one, but i also know that change is possible because i did it. With the love and concern of my family and how they approached me with their concerns.
Good Luck, and be consistent.

Answer 4

Well its controversial but when I had a child like this I told her she could do what she wanted to do as long as she acted like a adult. I charged her rent, refused to do her laundry, she had to pay to use the phone and for utilities as well as food. If she wanted to use a car she had to pay a payment for use of car and put gas in it. When she wanted new clothes she had to buy them. When she needed shampoo and conditioner she had to buy it and she sure didnt like the cheap stuff. We gave her a birthday and Christmas but she bought everything for herself. It lasted about 2 months then she didnt have enough money for anything and didnt know what to do. We told her she could go back to school and work hard, live at home with all the amenities when she could mind us, come home by curfew, refrain from sexual activity until old enough to raise a child and no mouthy backtalk and mumbling under her breath.

Shes 26 years old now, a college graduate, good job, married with 3 children. There is life after teens!!

Answer 5

Sometimes you just gotta let them go.