I am 21 and my boyfriend is 17... I love him and he loves me. the only thing is my father... How can I get my dad to understand that I want to be with him. We have been together for 14 months. Help
2007-03-07 01:34:45 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Hi the thing is you are 21 and you are old enough to do what you like. The only thing he is worried about is as you boyfriend is young he will think that he doesnt know what he wants in a woman yet and I dont think your dad will realise this until he gets into his 20's and you are still in a relationship together. He is only caring for you and trying to make sure you dont get hurt by him. But only you know what goes on in yours and your partners relationship your father doesnt. So just ignore him and do what your heart tells you/ Remeber you are an adult now who you choose to love is your decision noone else everyone is free to make there own chioces and if you both have fallen in love with each other and your both sure then you will stay together no matter what, and dont give up on a relationship no matter what people think. As long as you happy then dont worry about anyone else opinions.
2007-03-07 09:07:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...fathers want you to be able to be supported well. After all, the person you marry is the one who will "take his place" so to speak. When this guy gets older, this won't be such an issue. I'm 21 also, and I've been moved out for 3 years now...and when I think about high school ages, they seem soooo much younger to me. You know, that he still has to graduate and THEN go to school for 4 years to make something of himself (well usually)...so that could be the issue here.
You don't have to like how your dad is thinking, but just try to live w/ it. Keep your guy...but don't run off and get married just yet. Give it a lil more time. Don't tell your dad--show him--that it'll work..and that you're very cautious, and you understand how he's feeling.
Just know that, soon this guy can move out also, and the two of you will be together easier eventually. It just takes time.
2007-03-07 01:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by blah123456 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you are not having sex because that is illegal. Secondly, your father probably is looking out for you wanting to make sure you find a mate that can take care of you. Being that this guy is only 17 he must still be in high school and would still need to go through college before he could establish a good career and take care of you and a family. Just know your dad has alot of knowledge on life that you have yet to discover. Listen to what he has to say because it probably is very valuable.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 01:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a bit odd for the girl to be older than the boy but love does work in mysterious ways. sounds like u are serious and so do not take much notice of ur dad. just dont be disrespectful. i could understand if you were the 17 year old although that is a nice age gap. as long as you are sensible what is the problem, Girls are more responsible than boys any how so your in a good position.
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2007-03-07 04:56:24 · answer #4 · answered by unichick_06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand what objection your father could have. Is it because of your bf age?. Regardless, you are of legal age and so is your bf in most states. One caution, although age is just a number and has absolutly nothing to do with love, Your bf has some maturing to do. Women mature before men so tread carefully and don't completly give your heart away until you're sure he is the one for you, and you are sure that he feels the same way. Love is a wonderful thing but it can also be a hard taskmaster. Good luck.
2007-03-07 01:46:04 · answer #5 · answered by sarge 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Oh dear that's dad's for you, don't do anything to upset the apple cart, just carry on seeing your boyfriend be sensible, and show your dad that you are a responsible person, don't talk about leaving home or marriage yet (you are only young and people change) and slowly when he realises that you are showing commitment, and being responsible he may come round.. Dad's never see their little girls as growing up, Good Luck to you and your boyfriend.
2007-03-07 03:36:41 · answer #6 · answered by kevina p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been together for 14 months, then when you started dating, you were 19 and he was 15. In most states this is statutory rape and you are a self confessed child predator! Your dad is right. Either wait until he is legal or go to jail and have to register as a sex offender for the rest of your life! If the roles were reversed and you were a guy and he was a girl, you bet your butt you'd already be in jail.
2007-03-07 01:50:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your father is the type of unreasonable dad that doesnt listen and think he is always right. Then theres probaly no way of convincing him. The BEST thing to do is stay with your boyfriend and in time he will get over himself and understand you really love him.
2007-03-07 01:38:15 · answer #8 · answered by curious789 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
at the end of the day it is you that's dating the guy not your father, if this guy is mature for his age and loves you and treats you right and makes you happy then stick with it, even if you pleased your dad and got an older boyfriend there is no saying he will make you as happy as this one does, and if your dad loved you that's all he would want for you to be happy
2007-03-07 01:52:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't..
coz dads can be a bit stubborn at times.. and can be really hard to explain to..
you just have to show your dad that things could work out with you and your bf..
though.. i'm kinda thinking 17 is too young for you.. but that's just me..
2007-03-07 01:39:11 · answer #10 · answered by crushmybones 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋