Near my bus stop to go home every day, I am noticing now that this same guy is always around. He stops and asks me questions all of the time.
At first, they were simple questions like, Hot weather isn't it?
Now they are things like, You are cute. Your legs are pretty, etc
He is older and has grey hair. I guess he is in his 60's.
I have talked to my mom, and she thinks he is just lonely. His wife died from cancer 10 years ago.
Should I be flattered that he is talking to me, or grossed out that such an older guy likes my leg?
2007-03-07 01:31:10 · 28 answers · asked by Lolipop 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
A little of both. Just be polite about it and don't assume anything. Once he starts asking you personal questions like where you live and stuff like that, then you gots to keep it real.
2007-03-07 03:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysmoose 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be grossed out! There is just something not right here. I would tell my mom that I am not comfortable with what he is saying and doing and that you do not want to be around him. This guy almost sounds like he is stalking you. I would watch him at all times when I got off the bus and I would get out of there fast. I wouldn't answer any more questions and give him the cold shoulder. Try to have as many people around you at the bus stop as you can and try to find someone to walk with you. It sounds like you never want to be alone with this guy around!
2007-03-07 09:43:39 · answer #2 · answered by surfjax32 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
While your mother may be correct, and he could simply be a lonely old man, it's always better to trust your gut instincts on these things. I would try to change my schedule so that I could avoid encountering this man.
In my town, there's an older gentleman (in his 70s or 80s, as he celebrated his 50th wedding anniversary several years ago), who hangs around the college campus and goes to several weekly Christian youth-group events that are frequented by people 16 to 21 (where he hands out candy and gum, as though they were very young). He also holds get-togethers almost weekly at his home and fought with the college to get his group, "Grandma and Grandpa's Christian Fellowship" recognized on campus. I've always had a very bad feeling about this man and have avoided him even when I found myself at events where he was. Needless to say, I NEVER attended any of the events in his home. People have always thought I was a bit strange, but my gut feelings about this man scream "NO, NO, NO" - and it's always better to be safe than sorry.
2007-03-07 10:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by JenV 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Creepy and disgusting. Carry some mace. Possible ask a tough looking male friend or neighbor to come with u to the bus stop. Remember his manhood is the most vunerble spot so if he tries some thing u can kick him there.
2007-03-07 12:14:35 · answer #4 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is inappropriate for him to address these comments to you, however old you are - though it's doubly inappropriate if you're under the age of consent. It's irrelevant whether he's lonely or not - you are entitled not to be harassed.
Discuss this with your mother and perhaps also with a school or college guidance counsellor if you have one. It sounds to me like it might become quite frightening if this matter is not dealt with.
I think my reaction would be that, if he said "Your legs are pretty", to say "Please don't make comments about my physical appearance. That makes me uncomfortable." After that, if he goes back to comments about the weather, fine. If he says anything more about your appearance, don't react, blank him totally, and speak to your mom and your counsellor again.
2007-03-07 10:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Saint Bee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hard question. It all depends. In some cases if you live in a small town or neighborhood where everyone knows everyone else and you mom knows this guy then be flattered. And if being told your pretty bothers you ignore him or make a change in your travels.
If you in a big city and your mom really doesn't know this man then you have to think should I continue listening and enjoying his flattering statements and if so then can you get away from him if things change and he becomes more agressive.
2007-03-07 09:44:57 · answer #6 · answered by Scott 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girl this is old person human nature, He is lonely like your mom says but he also enjoys a pretty gal. Sadly in many social groups that is considered not politically correct to make small talk innuendo's of a cute or pretty thing to someone not even near your age to be saying.
2007-03-07 10:48:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kill_Me_Now! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Personally, it doesnt matter if he is lonely or not, whether his wife passed away...it is his life not anyone elses, yes this might sound mean, but who is going to actually care other than your fa mily, if something happens to you because of him. You should stay away from him because he may turn out to be a molestor, a rapist, or kidnapper. So, if you feel you are in danger, inform the police, and be safe. I hope this helps.
2007-03-07 10:28:56 · answer #8 · answered by Arely 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be careful because a lot of this old guys turned up to be dangerous people so don't give him a chance to talk to you or take some one with u till the bus stop then after the bus comes go alone or talk to him seriously that to behave him self then see his reaction if he got angry then he is not normal but if he is not planing for something worse then he will just walk away.
2007-03-07 09:46:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Grossed out. Totally inappropriate comments to a school aged girl. Don't walk home alone when he is around.
2007-03-07 10:07:20 · answer #10 · answered by Mark M 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋