He thinks he doesn't deserve me.
That he'd end up hurting my feelings.
I asked him if he had cheated on his gf, lied or just took off on her. He said he didn't do any of those, but he always screws something up.
How could he screw this up, b/c I just don't know a reason how he could???
2007-03-07 01:22:35 · 11 answers · asked by Lilly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He feels worthless about himself. I was sexually abused as a child and that caused me to feel the same way and yes, I did end up hurting every woman I becamse seriously involved with. You should ask him and then help him survive it. It will pay dividends to you in his loyalty to you.
2007-03-07 01:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is serious. He is probably concerned about messing up a good thing not necessarily meaning that he will cheat or lie to you. Hes probably just scared. However you should let him know that if you guys really like each other and you don't give it a try then you will end up with regrets wondering all the "what ifs" and "could of" and "would of". That's something you definitely don't want to be left with.
2007-03-07 09:32:08 · answer #2 · answered by h0n3y_l1ps_27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very common tactic with men - not nice men, either.
"I'm not good enough for you," "I don't deserve you," I'll hurt your feelings," "I'm no good," "I'm dangerous" or however the guy phrases it, it's all the same thing: he's setting up a loophole to get himself out of trouble for subsequent bad behavior. So when he starts behaving like he's not good enough for you, like he doesn't deserve you, when he hurts your feelings, etc., he'll come back and say, "Well, I told you that's what I was like in the beginning!"
The problem is that women don't accept these statements at face value like they should. He means it, but he's trying to pass it off as nothing.
Walk the other way.
2007-03-07 09:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's trying to break it off. If he says he doesn't deserve you, then why not spend as much time as he can with you, if you're better than anything he'll ever get? He's either been hurt before, and is trying not to get hurt again, or he's trying not to hurt you. In the process of people trying not to hurt people, there's a level of deception, and that's more hurtful than just coming out with the truth.
2007-03-07 09:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be afraid of trying new things in life. Or not to be mean but do you know for sure that he likes you? Hopefully he does and you need to sit down talk out how you feel and if he does not reciprocate then you (sorry) need to move on. He could always be a fantastic friend.
2007-03-07 09:27:48 · answer #5 · answered by JEN P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some time people go through one dissapointing situation after another, maybe he has self esteem issues, or maybe you are too good for him and he feels inferior. Maybe this is his mind game and wants to see if your willing to play out of his hand, meaning that he plays innocent but has wrong intentions! When someone says something like that to you don't let your guard down if you try to persue being with him, and analyze his actions!
2007-03-07 09:33:52 · answer #6 · answered by need advice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave this guys alone. He is poison. If he is telling you he will hurt you thats like a rattlesnake shaking its rattle, its a warning sign. This guy clearly has something wrong with him and its not fair to you to be someones emotional toilet. You deserve a guy who loves you and wants to be with you.
Take care
2007-03-07 09:31:29 · answer #7 · answered by UnderTigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds insecure, and if he think he may hurt you or screw something up, then he probably would, And he doesnt want to get you involved with it. Sounds like a player.
2007-03-07 09:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
in a mans world they dont need a reason they just do it move on and go find happyness life is to short to stay in park
2007-03-07 09:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey, it's not your fault... he sounds immature and you deserve somone better. Just try to let him go and find someone that will treat you with respect
2007-03-07 09:37:52 · answer #10 · answered by shine_on 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋