Me and this guy really fancy each other. Have done for ages but neither admitted our feelings. He has a girlfriend but he obviously prefers me. The girlfriend has to go. Do I just come out and say "I wanna be with you, lost the girlfriend"? He makes moves by asking if it's clearly over with my ex and when I'm moving out. Shall I just get it over with and say it or what? I don't know if they live together or not but he dosen't really mention her much. Help!
2007-03-07 01:13:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So tell him that you're interested, but will only date him if he's free of "other comittments" (her).
2007-03-07 01:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand back and look at the situation for a minute: He is constantly asking you if it's over with your ex while he still has a girlfriend. He's liked you for a while, but never cared enough to make a move and then gone out with other girls.
Is he really that into you? If he's talking to you behind his girlfriend's back now, what makes you think he won't do the same thing to you when he gets bored with you?
I say remain friends, but end the romantic stuff. This has drama written all over it.
2007-03-07 01:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Average Joe 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want this guy? He's a cheater-pure and simple! You don't even know if they live together or not-so he's onviously keeping secrets from you,or you'd have a clearer picture of his life.
I'd say back off. Sure-you may fancy each other-but if he hasn't called time on his relationship (and that is up to them-not you),he may not really intend to-not in the near future anyway. He may regard you as an ego boosting flirt,but has no intention of following up on it.
2007-03-07 01:27:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight. You are STILL living with your ex, and your new love already has a girlfriend.
And both of you are reaching for a relationship together while not being quite honest with your current main squeezes.
Sounds like you and this guy are a match made in heaven.
Both of you seem to have quickly overcome any moral problem with the "all's fair" part of "all's fair in love and war".
I don't think you could go wrong with any approach you take.
2007-03-07 01:30:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to really ask yourself this question, do you want to be with someone who is making moves on you while he has a gf on the side. That just shows he has no respect for his gf and is probably a cheater. If I were you I would tell him how you feel, see what he says and what he does. If he makes excuses why he can't leave her then get away from this situation b/c it will lead no where but trouble. good luck.
2007-03-07 01:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by ChristinaN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you 're-think' this situation. Do you really want to be in this position? He probably doesn't find it necessary to give up this girlfriend, as you've accepted the situation as 'one-sided'. He feels free to ask you about your ex, but he probably doesn't plan to take any action relative to his current girlfriend. He doesn't mention her b/c he doesn't consider it to be relevant. You seem happy to 'wait in the wings' and who wouldn't love that situation. He's shown character traits that would not be tolerated by most other women, such as disloyalty, dishonesty, deceit, untrustworthiness, unfaithfulness. But I'm sure you have convinced yourself that he will show loyalty toward you. If he prefered you over his current girlfriend....wouldn't that already be ancient history for him. I hope you enjoy the emotional tug of war that will take place between him and his girlfriend after you've risked everything.
2007-03-07 01:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
before either one of you start a relationship with each other you should end the ones you are in now instead of just using them until something better comes along I'm sure your partners don't deserve to be in the dark and thinking everything is OK,
2007-03-07 01:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to be out of the picture for a while, maybe a week, month or so, i dun know..
If he's in constant search for you, that a good sign..
If not, then forget it all..
Might be mean, but it truly casts a guy's ego aside if he really loves you...
2007-03-07 01:25:58 · answer #8 · answered by Hatred 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him "I'm sorry, but if you want to continue this relationship you need to lose your girlfriend." Just get it over with! You will be so glad afterwards.
2007-03-07 01:17:00 · answer #9 · answered by horsesareforever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a lot like Clerks II, just with a bisexual overtone. I think if you really love him, be with him, because you'll spend the rest of your life wondering if you don't.
2007-03-07 01:16:28 · answer #10 · answered by Mr. Saturday 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah, don't say it.
i thought this about a guy i liked and i knew liked me in the past.
I told him i liked him and asked him to choose. he did not answer me, but 2 months on and he's still with her - so i guess I got my answer!
wish i hadn't asked, I feel so stupid now
i also regret it cos she's actually a really nice girl and i feel bad for trying to come between them. and i feel like a bi tch.
you'll be happier if you don't
2007-03-07 01:25:04 · answer #11 · answered by Elle W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋