Ive been dating a guy since December...everything was going great until he moved in after a falling out with his roomate a couple of weeks ago...i told him it wasnt a good idea...but helped him out in a tough situation...i have to admit since hes moved in, I havent been all that friendly...ive bene mean...when he came back from a long business trip i saw condoms in his see-through bag...i asked him he said they had been in there a long time...he was right, they were pretty old...after that day...i got really depressed...anyway...today...when he left for work...he was really really dressed up...(he usually just wears t-shirts)...he shaved (which he was leaving a little stubble for me) and then he ran back upstairs to grab cologne to take with him...i know he works out after work and changes...and has meetings and stuff...is he cheating? Or am i just being paranoid? I mean i feel like hes either going on a date or trying to look good to attract a female...hes 34, im 25.
2007-03-07 01:12:07 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well cheating is always a difficult thing to contemplate. Why do some do it and others avoid at the risk of death. Statistics tell us that about 50% of all men have cheated and about 63% of all women, at some point during their life. I think that indicates human nature, not sin or weakness, so do what you want, but i don't ultimately think its the end of the world should either party have a little sex on the side.
Yes he is cheating, now ask yourself is it worth the end of your relationship?
2007-03-10 10:31:27 · answer #1 · answered by Boston Bluefish 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been dating a guy since December...everything was going great until he moved in after a falling out with his roomate a couple of weeks ago...i told him it wasnt a good idea...but helped him out in a tough situation...i have to admit since hes moved in, I havent been all that friendly...ive bene mean...when he came back from a long business trip i saw condoms in his see-through bag...i asked him he said they had been in there a long time...he was right, they were pretty old...after that day...i got really depressed...anyway...today...w... he left for work...he was really really dressed up...(he usually just wears t-shirts)...he shaved (which he was leaving a little stubble for me) and then he ran back upstairs to grab cologne to take with him...i know he works out after work and changes...and has meetings and stuff...is he cheating? Or am i just being paranoid? I mean i feel like hes either going on a date or trying to look good to attract a female...hes 34, im 25.
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2007-03-07 01:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Gazza 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I can say from personal experience that you are probably being mean because he is invading your personal space. And most likely that you think he is cheating because you want to push him away. Why don't you spend some quality time together. (Not just in the house) See if this makes it easier to comunnicate. And if after a bit longer you still believe he is cheating talk to him. Tell him that it is not fair to you or him to be in a relationship like this. But the overall thing that I want to say is that if you are not happy do not stay in a relationship. If you are looking for excuses stop. Just do what you think is best for you. Afterall you don't want to be in a relationship years down the road and feel stuck. Hope this helps!
2007-03-07 01:19:23 · answer #3 · answered by JEN P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a hobby. You have only been dating since December? If you suspect him of cheating thats pretty guick even for a real @ss to start looking around. Living together can have some pretty awful side effects.
2007-03-07 01:16:43 · answer #4 · answered by Devdude 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relax girl....chill..... have something that will make you occupied like yoga, gym, wall climbing etc...anything that interests you...you're focusing too much on him to the point that everything he do will fall on CHEATING! If your confident about how you love him, and how he loves you, then NO ONE can ever replaced you in his heart....I know that is ladies intuition to say that your man is cheating but you got to TRUST him, as he is trusting you....Physical looks, can really move you....Who wants to date a smelly guy anyway????? You got to trust him......You also need to do anything that will make you occupied so that you wont be paranoid......Good luck!
2007-03-07 01:31:15 · answer #5 · answered by silly girl.... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt it, any normal guy wants to look/smell good. I know I do. Maybe you just think he is after finding something suspicious, and now you are naturally trying to prove yourself right. Just relax, I'd wait until something more significant happened to make a concrete decision.
2007-03-07 01:16:47 · answer #6 · answered by enz1ey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont do smethn now dat wud make u regret for da rest of ur life...just cos he dressed up well a da doesnt means he wud try 2 attract sme female...
a lot matters if his attitude 2wards u has changed...lately..if he just wants u for S*x or loves u for da 1 u are...u kno da answer better...
a doubt ruins a relationship forever....only trust makes u go strong..n if u cant trust em now...u wont be able 2 trust em ever...ur decision...2 either trust him...or doubt him...
his way of talkn...or interacting wid u..wud tell u everythn...
think bout it...before u loose sme1 wid a mistake of doubt
2007-03-07 01:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you ask him? Tell him how you feel insecure about the situation? When he in the shower, look at his phone! :) You have the right to know.
2007-03-07 01:17:32 · answer #8 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just have a meeting today. Just be patient, because if he is cheating....you will eventually see it.
2007-03-07 01:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by mrs_endless 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you seriously suspect him then something is wrong in the relationship regardless, it's either you or him.
2007-03-07 01:24:43 · answer #10 · answered by lisateric 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋