I was in the worst relationship. He would always put me down, He never worked so I paid for everything and he would cheat on me nonstop on top of all of that he would hit me. I kept giving him chances but when I found out that he was still calling girls up I had enough and we broke up. Now I'm just angry cuz of everything that I went through and I can't stop being angry I want to get over this and move on but I still think about it. He's moved on so easily that it hurts more. He told me that he never loved me and that our 2 year relationship was nothing that I was the one that caught feelings and that we were just f**king. That hurts cuz we lived together and we have a baby. I feel that everything I went through was for nothing if he's saying this. But what hurts most is that he goes around telling his cousin that I'm the one calling him trying to get him back. But he has actually been the one asking to come back. How can I stop being angry at this liar and move on?
2007-03-07 01:08:30 · 8 answers · asked by Uriko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Guess who you're angry at! It's pretty simple. You're angry with yourself because you allowed yourself to put up with this obviously very abusive person. You need some strong ammunition to combat this situation and it's not going to come from the average person answering these questions. You need professional help and the first place you should head for is the battered women's organization.
Secondly, discontinue talking or thinking about this horrible creature. He has nothing to offer you and never will. Ask some of the battered women that have taken back idiots like this and gone through the same treatment more than once. You need to listen to some of the stories that truly battered women have to tell to realize that you are in the same class as they are.
It's a tough situation that is NOT going to solve itself. You must take action NOW that directs you away from this creature and towards a life where you can take care of yourself and your baby.
Don't hesitate. Take action now.
2007-03-07 01:19:51 · answer #1 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, sorry you had to go thru all that. One way to stop being angry....is to realize that you are a strong woman to have gone thru all that and still standing...you are free from someone who doesn't love you and hurt you so much. The thing is...you shouldn't be angry because you have a wonderful child that will love you forever. Don't dwell on the past and dont let what others say hinder your everyday happiness, because only YOU know the truth..who gives a **** what others say!
It's going to take a little bit of time, but you know...you got out of there before he hurts you more. Just focus your attention to your baby, to yourself (go out, have some fun, enjoy being single) and to finding someone who's worthy of your love.
2007-03-07 01:16:57 · answer #2 · answered by M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW it sounds like you picked a real winner lol. Well i dont know about you but getting my mind right has always helped me feel better. So here are a few pointers.
1) Take comfort that you are a good woman and he will be a loser for the rest of his life. If you LEARN from this situation you will move on to a stable relationship with a man who loves and worships the ground you walk on.
2) Tell all his friends that he has a tiny penis and its a miracle that you got pregnant.(May or may not be true)
3) Torch his car.(But if he is the leech you make him out to be he may not have a car)
Note: option 3 is highly illegal and should be avoided. Mindless violence always make me feel better though.
2007-03-07 01:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by UnderTigger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become outgoing, deny him of any contact be it email, i.m, phone or text & tell yourself constantly that you & your baby deserve BETTER. You'll never stop being angry at him for his unfaithfulness, dishonesty, non-loyal acts & his abusive ways but don't give him the satisfaction of knowing your angry & DON'T let it turn inside. I did & it almost destroyed me mentally & physically. Pass up the opportunity to answer the phone by laughing at how pathetic he is & call a good, trust-worthy friend to just talk to about anything. Your heart may feel weak to him but in reality your will is stronger.
2007-03-07 01:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by Paul P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand the pain you are going through. Spend more time with yourself,try to find what makes you happy .Try to relax your mind by doing a meditation course for ten days .It will certainly help you .For more information about doing course visit
http://www.dhamma.org
2007-03-07 01:17:09 · answer #5 · answered by APNim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sorry to say this but that was never a true a relationship, especially if you were being abused. you should have reported it to the cops or something. kind of stupid for staying with him that whole time. dont' waste your time worrying over someone who won't worry for you
2007-03-07 01:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by Brittany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ignore and forget him ,cared ur baby and move and try to find another , man that will love u forever
2007-03-07 01:18:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For your sake and your child's....focus on your child and try to stop thinking about it...
2007-03-07 01:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋