Any Moms out there feel UNDER APPRECIATED?

Question

If you do tell me how you wish that your family could show they appreciate you
If you ARE appreciated then share with us what exactly your family members do to show their appreciation.

details please

Answer 1

Yes! Yes! Yes! Here is a little background- Monday through friday, I bring my daughter to school, go to work at my full time job, after work I pick my daughter back up from school, come home by 4 o'clock, have dinner on the table by five o'clock, eat, have everything cleaned up by 6:00 or 6:30, give my daughter a bath, try to do an activity with her before her bed time which is 8:00, brush her teeth, read her a story, say her prayers with her and put her to sleep. At 9:00, 3-4 times a week I usually have conference calls from my work which last about 45 minutes. Then I make the lunches for the next day.My husband also works full time and goes to school at nite. He comes home by 11:00 pm and always manages to leave me a mess for the morning (God, knows he never cleans). On SAturdays, I bring my daughter to karate in the morning, take her to the park in the afternoon and make a big dinner for saturday nite. Meanwhile I am trying to make appointments for my work week to come. My husband usually has things to do on saturdays. On Sundays I watch as my husband sleeps all day on the couch while I clean up around him and keep my daughter busy.

I do alot and so does my husband but I feel unappreciated because I have lost three jobs before this one due to my "God given role" as a mother. Neither my husband nor my family believes it is right for the man to stay home when the child is sick. And my daughter has minor resperatory problems that keeps her out of school alot. And despite the fact that my husband makes alot of money- he has bad spending habits and I am looked down upon and called a bad mother if I dont work at all.
My family can show they appreciate me by not focusing on all that I am NOT doing and start focusing on all that I AM doing. I take pride in being a parent and I feel like my husband chooses not to partake in fatherhood. He is going to school for something he doent want to work in and I feel like it is his way of getting away from us. I am tired of explaining to my daughter why daddy isnt here and why he wont wake up on sundays to play with her. I wish he would spend more time at home and allow me to stay home with my daughter. I am overworked and underappreciated. THey can show me they appreciate me by not putting me down and stop looking at my husband as a "Hero". I have fulfilled all of my duties to my family and I want some positive recognition. Not money, not diamonds, not even an outing- just understanding. I hope they read this

Answer 2

I am a mother of 3 children ages 9,6 and 4. I feel unappreciated all the time. My oldest has severe arthritis and gets weekly injections at home that I do. Just the other night she went to the hospital with a fever of 39.2,being on a cancer drug this fever could be deadly. I was at the hospital from 6:30 until 2 in the morning. We came home slept for 5 hours and I got up with the other 2,cleaned up and made meals. All the while being VERY tired.

I tell my hubby all the time I feel unappreciated and he says we love you and do appreciate what I do. But what I want is not items,but for him to say that I am a wonderful mom. And that I am doing a good job.

I think for a parent to go on everyday doing what they do,being a referee,a judge and loving parent we need to hear we are doing a good job. Without hearing that,then we all should feel unappreciated.

Answer 3

There are days when I run myself ragged and feel like no one appreciates me, especially when I come home and the house is still a mess and there are dishes to wash, chores to do, etc...I wish that without being asked my family would all pitch in after dinner to wash the dishes. That would be so cool. (what would be even better is an automatic dishwasher. My boyfriend doesn't believe me when I tell him I never had to wash dishes as a kid because my mom had one.)

But there are also days when by boyfriend brings me flowers for absolutely no reason at all, and other days when he takes me out to dinner for a treat. My son (almost 4) will run into the room to give me a hug and a kiss followed by an "I love you!" Then he will put his hands on each side of my head and lower my forehead to where he can kiss me there too. It doesn't matter what I've done for him to do this. I can go out to the mailbox and get this greeting when I come back into the house,or sometimes into the same room he's in. My son makes me feel appreciated to the point of tears sometimes.

So I guess overall I'm pretty balanced on this one.

Answer 4

I feel appreciated when my husband says it's my day off. He'll give me the keys and tell me to come back in a few hours - take all the time I need. I feel appreciated when he goes out to pick up the grocerys - one less thing I have to worry about. I feel appreciated when he comes home and say's dinner is on him.

I feel most appreciated when he picks up the toys and vacuums after a long day at the office.

It's not in the big stuff, but in the small things. Even just keeping some distance between me and ds who likes to hang on my legs 24/7. ;) Even if it's sitting down and entertaining ds...by reading, playing cars, playing atari games, or just wrestling around.

PS: It isn't about money, cars, diamonds or the things you have. It's about knowing the person you are sharing your life with appreciates you. The most effective way of doing that is just coming right out and saying it!!

Answer 5

Not at all! Husband - tells me daily multiple times how much he loves me, hugs and kisses all the time, never leaves the house or comes home without an embrace and a kiss, always a thank you and a kiss after a meal --- loves me, loves me, loves me.
Teen son - still tells me I'm the best mom, still huggy and kissy - follows dad's example that way (which is wonderful), talks to me all the time about how he likes the things I do for him - from cooking, to helping with schoolwork, to him even enjoying going grocery shopping with me. Loves me, loves me, loves me.
I return the love, and then some....

Answer 6

I have an 11 yr old son who is handicapped. My spouse is self employed and works crzy amnt of hrs. I take care of our son 24/7 and it is stressful and tiring. I never get any appreciation..its my job is what I'm told. I would like a "I love you for what you go through everyday" once in a while. I dont even want gifts or flowers. Simple words are enough to warm my heart!

Answer 7

I feel under appreciated all the time, because I do everything around the house without help from anyone in my family. However, my husband does do very nice things for me to show me he appreciates me. He bought me a certificate for a massage and mani & pedi with a nice card that told me how much he appreciated me, even though he doesn't show it all the time.
I think we, as wives/mothers, would like it more if they showed their appreciation on a daily basis by offering to help out more with the daily routine of taking care of the family...laundry, vaccuming, dinner, dishes, etc...

Answer 8

My cousin is in this same situation mam... I feel so bad for her, and she doesn't have alot, yet she does so much for her kids. They act as if she's done something horrible to them and you'd think they hate her! She's so upset about it, I wish I can help her. But I don't know how....

I'm 16 and my parents and grandparents are the most appreciated people in my life! I don't understand how some people can treat their own mother in such a way...

it sickens me.

Answer 9

There are days when I feel appreciated and days where I absolutely don't. It comes and goes. My children are good about telling me that they love me and giving lots of hugs. I wish they would thank me more for doing those little things that all moms do, not just the major things.

Answer 10

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