Here's my story.I liked this guy a lot. He was always confusing me about how he felt.One minute he'd say something like "I don't want to ruin our friendship",inregards to dating,and then in the same breath he'd say "but,you never know."So I would be patient an wait & yes,now I feel totally stupid & hurt, for having done that.I just found out, this weekend, by a friend of mine who had no idea that I liked this guy, that he DOES have a girlfriend. he's been seeing her for a while now.I asked my friend, before I found this out,several times,if he had a girlfriend.He'd always say no.So now I found out totally by accident and now he won't even be man enough to talk to me about this.Why can't people be upfront with others? Why can't we realize that the lies will hurt more when found out?Why won't he talk to me about it? I guess he never cared about me as his friend and it doesnt matter, really that he did ruin our friendship by lying.Please, no comments about how stupid I was. I know this.
2007-03-07 01:02:03 · 7 answers · asked by Fuzzy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first off, you are not stupid.
You invested feelings in a person that didn't deserve your friendship or anything else.
It's unfortunate but it's a part of life.
Try not to feel bad and find someone else.
The bad thing is this guy will come back and try to manipulate you some more...please ignore him.
2007-03-07 01:09:28 · answer #1 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you aren't stupid because you didn't know. The guy is the stupid one for ruining a friendship because of lying. Last year I was hurt because a guy I was infatuated with was very confusing too. He would show he was interested with me and I to him. But finally, one drunken night, I sent him a message confronting on what is actually going on. Boy did I get my answer and I'll just say I didn't speak to him after that. Oh and then a friend of mine decides to go after him, because she felt lonely (she decided to get a divorce so most likely he was just a rebound). But you know what hurt me more it was the friend and not the guy.
2007-03-07 09:09:29 · answer #2 · answered by B.J. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Chalk it up to experience. We guys are never ones to burn opposite-sex bridges. He was trying to let you know that he didn't want to be with you right now, but if at some point in the future he became unattached and desperate, he didn't necessarily want to rule out being with you.
2007-03-07 09:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by dave_cooke1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the problem ? Your male friend is emotionally unstable. Move on to make new friends. No big deal.
2007-03-07 09:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Bright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi to me it sounds like he's trying to keep you in his web,so if him and his girlfriend break up he'll have someone to hook up with!Or he doesn't want you to know that he has a girlfriend so he can hook up with you!!STAY AWAY FROM THIS PLAYA!!
2007-03-07 09:08:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow, this happens everyday on both sides of the fence, i hope you heal from this
2007-03-07 09:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by madtyga2002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right. He just doesn't care that much about you.
2007-03-07 09:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by Captain Jack 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋