How to deal with my BF and his ex?
my boyfriend's ex gf, although she's polite enough to me, it's still pretty awkward when we're around each other, and he doesn't seem to get that (they say boys are oblivious to things, AND ITS TRUE). also, when she's around he won't show any affection towards me, like kiss me or anything. should this bother me? also, how should i behave in a situation where the 3 of us are together?
2007-03-07 00:53:20 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
TO B HONEST I DONT THINK IT SHUD BOTHER U coz ...hes probably just as uncomfortable / awkward around her as u r ...i mean tho shes polite n all can u imagine how awkward she must feel knowing her ex (the guy that once kissed her b4) is kissing a girl right in front of her ...even if shes over it which is wat it seems still its a very awkward situation not for u only but for u three so forgive him for it hehe mwa
2007-03-07 01:02:06 · answer #1 · answered by dina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it could be that he just doesn't break out and swap spit on a dime and therefore this is not exception but if you feel that needs to be done, then address it with him. Ask him why he doesn't kiss you or show affection when she's around. Thats what he would do if you were pulling away while your ex was in the room.
I do know that when I remained friends with an ex and had a new b/f, it was just respectful not to rub it in their face. I'm a very low key person with regard to that, but I would consider everyone's feelings... and so you should definitely tell him it bothers you.
2007-03-07 00:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by sassinya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just feels like it's an awkward situation....you can't really expect him to act too affectionate...maybe in part he wants to respect you and her at the same time. I don't know how often you guys are all together, but when you are...I'd say the easiest is just keep it simple....cause if u start hugging and kissing, I would feel weird either as you...or the ex. So just relax, keep the affection for when it's just you and him!
2007-03-07 00:59:03 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby girl your boy friend is being insensitive to your needs for affection in front of the ex girl friend is because he care about what the ex girl friend is feeling, and what she thinks. And he don't won't her to feel as though he loves you more than he loved her when he was with her. She must have asked him that. Women are like that some times. And by the way, Why are you friends with his ex any way? He need to stop playing with yo emotions, because he's with you now not her and shouldn't be like that toward you. He is totally disrepecting you as his girl. I personally wouldn't take that sh@t! And I will tell that bit@h to be on her way, because she is influencing him to do that. And he's going along with it because he still have feelings for her. Because if he didn't he wouldn't care to love on you infront of her.
Girl it's something going on. Get rid of the ex, if shes an ex why is she still around? Their needs to be a complete break up between them. Or you going to keep feeling the pain of him avoiding you like that. They must made a commitment to stay friends huh? Thats bull s, tell him she got to go! If you want yo man to your self. Hell they might be still fuc@ing.
2007-03-07 01:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by lmj747 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I guess I dont understand why you and he are hanging around the ex-girlfriend. Why is she even in the picture at all. I would talk to him and ask him why the two of you have to spend so much time with her and if you have to be around her that you expect him to behave as he would around anyone else toward you. I can understand if he wont kiss or anything in front of her out of respect and just the awkwardness alone is too much, but you deserve respect. I dont see where you are getting any in this situation.
2007-03-07 01:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by mlock123 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he probably feel that it's disrespectful to her to kiss right in front of her face but I'm cool with my boyfriends first love and i don;t really care about being with them she know what they had is over and I'm wifey now so you should talk to him and tell him that you feel as if he don;t act the same when she is around and ask him why?.
2007-03-07 01:04:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all when you say fool around it implies something sexual and I would say watch a scary movie and then pretend to be scared and burry your face in his shoulder so then when he look at you look up and he will probably kiss u just pretend to be super scared so he feels like he is protecting you it soo cute shah just don't turn when he tries to kiss you Good for you for moving slow
2016-03-16 06:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm....well this could be anything reallly...remember only ur bf knows why he does what he does....
but in saying so, if ur bf doesnt show u any physical contact when she is around then to me, he still has feelings for his ex and hopes of one day being back with her....anothe way of lookin at it, is maybe he is showing some respect to his ex by not doing that in front of her and hurting her feelings....its probably something u should bring up jokingly to him, see what he says and how he reacts.....
how should u act when the 3 of u are together....hold his hand....be his gf, but maybe not overly affectionate....if shes polite to u then really u have no need to be mean to her. if u were to be, then its because of ur feelings towards ur bf...
i hope this helps in some form....good luck
2007-03-07 01:03:14 · answer #8 · answered by C Dizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could you possibly be trying harder to get his affection when she is around? If so, that's probably why it is bothering you...
2007-03-07 01:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by mandylove24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it would bother me if he was acting stand offish when his ex was around. Try it on him and see how he feels.
2007-03-07 00:56:06 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋