my bf and i are at uni together- so's his ex. they were together for about 10 months. I know he's over her and he tells me he wants to be with me now. But i feel so insecure, I'm always comparing myself to her (she is gorgeous - looks and personality - and frankly I don't know why he broke up with her). Also, I worry that the same thing will happen to me as did to her. what to do?
2007-03-07 00:51:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember this: if they were meant to be together, they would be. But he is drawn to you. Whether you think you have an inferior appearance or personality, remember that you have something that makes him want to be with you.
As for worrying that the same thing will happen to you, you must decide whether being in a relationship is worth the risk that it will not work. There are millions of wonderful things about being in a relationship, but it's up to you to decide whether it's worth the potential hurt. Once you make a decision, stand by it. If this is what you want, don't let your mind dwell on the things you're afraid of. Put them out of your head and focus on finding the good things about yourself that make people want to be with you.
Good luck!
2007-03-07 00:59:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 11:39:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think too much....he broke up with her obviously for reasons deeper than looks and physical stuff. He's with you! Don't let your insecurity take over the better part of your relationship. Of course, it's natural to compare, but honey, he's with you! And he's with you because he loves you. If you focus a lot on what "could" happen...you just may make it happen....so just be happy, enjoy your relationship...he loves you for YOU.
2007-03-07 00:56:14 · answer #3 · answered by M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Spend some time with yourself. Try and find what makes you really happy other than your B.F .Do those things which gives you confidence.Gradually you will feel secure. Do not relate your insecurity to your B.F or Ex
2007-03-07 00:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by APNim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may never know why he broke it off with the old girlfriend.You coul ask.Don't compare your looks to other girls.I'm sure you are attractive.The important thing is character and personality.He obviously cares about you and not her because he chose you.Let go his past and enjoy the future.
2007-03-07 00:59:50 · answer #5 · answered by sharen d 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There was a reason that she's his ex now. If he didn't want to be with you, he wouldn't. Relax and enjoy him. You'll make yourself sick if you keep doing this.
2007-03-07 00:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Jewel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are just going to have to get in the mind set. You are going to have to realize that he is with you now. I am sure if he wanted her, he would be with her.
2007-03-07 00:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men don't think insecurity is sexy! Doesn't he give you compliments. Tell you that you're all he wants and needs. Maybe it's his fault not yours
2007-03-07 00:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋