A friend of mine lost her fiance in Dec./2004. She's been paying money to a medium $200/session to learn how to 'channel'. She talks to him constantly (or so she says). The medium told her to register with Eharmony, which she did..and she's been out on a date with a guy 3 times, but continues to live her life through talking to those who have passed on. When something seems upset or wrong, she says her angels are kicking her..and she's always using this as a way to point the direction in life. She's also making statements that this is how she now lives her life..but it makes a lot of us extremely uncomfortable. Knowing her fiance (he was my best friend), he'd NEVER tell her to join an online dating service. By the way, the guy she dated the 3 times decided to support another friend who was ill. That's suspicious particularly when my friend says she told the guy about her 'angels'...etc. Truly, I think my friend needs help. Is what she's doing entertainment, or evil???
2007-03-07 00:50:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I have suggested to my friend that paying the medium is throwing her money away. No matter what we say to her, if it's not in agreement with what she thinks, she'll dismiss it and go on to say this is her 'destiny'. Yes, we've invited her out numerous times so she can enjoy herself and as a way to meet people. My friend strongly believes that her late fiance wants her to write about about their 'love story' and lately, this has been her main focus. Even with something coincidental, she believes it was meant to be, her angels were guiding her. I'm very worried about my friend..and do believe she's heading down the road to self-destruction or a mental breakdown. How do I suggest she seek help without offending her?
2007-03-07 02:00:37 · update #1
There is nothing wrong with learning to "channel", it is a way to seek guidance, some on the other side work as guides to help you, while others move on after death. It isn't so much about summoning someone, though, more about asking a question of available guides, and learning how to listen for an answer. It isn't polite to go around bugging dead people if they are ready to move on though. "Summoning" someone is definitely not a good thing to do, and as the poster above said, part of learning to channel is learning how to tell the difference between a guide, or some malicious spirit. Your friend seems to be dwelling on her grief, and obsessing with channeling out of desperation, though. This desperation would make it all the harder for her to hear her guides accurately in the end, and could be leading her to things like the times she says her angels are kicking her. It has been 2 years since her fiance died, and I believe the medium recommended she should register with e harmony, because she needs more contact with people on this plane, and to dwell less on the other planes. If the man she dated 3 times is the only person she has dated after 2 years, then she is clearly spending way too much time to herself, and needs to get out more. I also think that the medium knows that she is too obsessed with channeling and is trying to help her to come out of herself more One question I would would put to you, is have you and your friends tried to get her to go out for the evening (as a group) to go out, have fun, and meet people? The medium perhaps suggested eharmony because they are based on questionaires designed to match people according to compatability, and if she answered her questions truthfully, it would be alot easier for them to match her with someone who believes in things like angels, than it would for her to go out into the world and introduce herself as "Hi, I'm --- and I talk to angels". Just some thoughts....it does seem as though she is having a very hard time working through her grief, and could be sabotaging herself, now that it is time to start her life over. Maybe should have some grief counseling.
Additional comments: I kind of think that even the medium thinks that she has reached a point where she is not benefitting from this and throwing away her money, and that is why she is telling her eharmony and stuff. But if you put it in terms of that she is throwing her money away, it will put her in a defensive posture, and your concerns won't reach her. As for a tactful way to suggest that she should go in to counseling, perhaps the thing to do would be to go to a counselor dealing with grief issues yourself, and talk to the grief counselor and ask for advice how to procede on this, as the counselor would have more experience how to go about it. As for this business about writing her love story, she has alot to get out of her system, and writing is a good release, and could be used as part of the counseling. You are a good and loving friend to take so much interest.
2007-03-07 01:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by beatlefan 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
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2016-09-30 08:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure its evil, however your friend needs to let go. She has to let her fiance pass onto The Afterlife so that they can both move on. I understand that bereavement is a painful and difficult process, however he would want her to get on with her life.
As for this "medium" she is charging extortionate rates for something that is not right. The dead should be left in peace, not to be disturbed in The Afterlife. Tell your friend to stop paying this money and wake up and see she is being taken for a ride! Channeling is not to be trifled with and may not in essence be evil, its not entertainment either, but is not morally right. If the dead wish to contact us, they will of their own free will. Summoning their energy/presence (channeling) is wrong, one ought not disturb what has gone to rest. Now since you were his best friend, perhaps you ought to remind her of what her fiance would have wanted.
I agree your friend needs help. You could suggest bereavement counseling or offer her a shoulder to cry on so she can talk over her feelings. She obviously misses him terribly, but this is no way to live.
2007-03-07 01:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by A-chan 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes It's true mediums do have a gift for talking to the dead as I know from experience .
But they're comes a time when spirits move on , It's possible your friend is talking to her fiancee but what if shes talking to a spirit that claims to be her fiancee , I know that sounds spooky but the reality is that there is evil out there , she needs to be careful in who shes speaking to .
2007-03-07 01:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by tradjazziscool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not up to mortal man to know what goes on in the after life.
The quick should not involve themselves with the dead's business. I feel that it is very evil to tamper with the deceased.
2007-03-07 00:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by hunnybee032001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's just really messed up and hasn't dealt with the issue of her loss. Has nothing to do with good or evil - she's just REALLY messed up and needs help!
2007-03-07 00:55:55 · answer #6 · answered by aali_and_harith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is imaginary. You friend is wasting her money on a con man.
2007-03-07 00:57:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems to be highly profitable/prophetable!
2007-03-07 01:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I go with evil
2007-03-07 00:53:04 · answer #9 · answered by Son of the bunboy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Believe what you want , BottOm lInE...MoNEy...
2007-03-08 11:54:10 · answer #10 · answered by hunterman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋