I'm 15, how can I deal with this issue with my parents?

Question

A year ago I went through a bas phase. I was jealous of my lil sister, felt I wan't loved, eneded up being mean to her and doing some bad stuff. I apologized my parents were kinda harsh, I got a extremely harsh punishment fo3 3 months and for 2 months more they still acted like they didn't like and trust me. That broke my spirit, I got in a deep depression, but my parents were harsh again, told me I had got what I deserved, depression would solve nothing and I had to cary on w/ my life. I even thought about suicide, but my grandma who loves me sugested I spend some time with her, far from my parents. I've ben living w/ her for a years and my life changed, now I'm a kid my parents are proud of. But I don't want to see them again, they didn't act like parents, proved they don't love me. They want me to get back home but I can't see them withouth getting disturbed by those memories. I don't deserve such punishment. I want to stay w/ my grandma and write them off my life. She stands by me

My grandma, mother of my father, is a wonderful person, made me recover my selfesteem and help me become what I am today. She pays for my school , everything, will pay for my coleege, so I don't need my parents any more

Answer 1

are you sure they dont really love you? i understand that there are really bad parents out there who dont love their children ...but if they want you back it must mean they do care for you because if they did care they wouldnt have even botherd to ask you to come back..so sweetheart try to understand that people make mistakes and that everyone deserves a second chance specially if you see that theyr sorry for what theyve done.. if the love is there dont ignore it because they have feeling too

Answer 2

I think that you are very lucky to have so many people that love you. I do believe that your parents still love you. It is hard for a parent to be in a position that you placed them in. They have to protect not only you but your younger sister. I think Grandma coming to the rescue was good for you, but in the long run may have caused some damage. You really need to talk to your parents, work out your problems before they get any worse. Clear the air, and be an adult about things. You are nearly at the age when you will be considered an adult. Show them that you are truly sorry for the actions from back then and prove to them that they can trust you again. You will find it's not as bad as you remember it. And hey, maybe they are sorry too. After all, they are only human and make mistakes too. Good Luck

Answer 3

it sounds like there are more underlying issues besides just a harsh punishment. what else happened in your life with them besides the fact that u were grounded for 3 months. if that is all that happened then u probably need some counseling because u have a problem. sounds like grandma is a wonderful person and u are very close. be thankful u have her. but u really need to fix the prob with your parents. they won't always be around (i know it's a cliche but it is true.) good luck to u

Answer 4

I think you should stay with your grandmother for now - BUT - work on resolving the relationship between you and your parents. Since you are doing much better, and you and mom/dad have had a chance to calm down, now is a good time to try to work things out between all of you. Don't hang on to the resentment of the past as it will only increase into an unending anger. Please give your mom and dad a chance. I am sure Grandma will be very supportive of this.

Answer 5

I was in a very similar situation when I was your age. Unfortunately, I had no one to turn to. I know what will happen if you move back in with your parents, and believe me, it ain't good.
If your grandmother doesn't mind, stay where you are. You might want to look into becoming an "Emancipated Minor" effectively divorcing your parents.

Answer 6

Boy, you have it made, don't you? If you're 15 you're still a child and you really don't know what's good for you. Grandma is induldging you and once she gets enough of your selfish ways, that will be the end of that. You don't want to see you parents? Good...do them a favor and stay at Grandmas. Here's a little phrase you can contemplate while you're there. Maybe your smart enough to know what it means, but I doubt it. "Don't burn your bridges". godloveya.

Answer 7

Try to talk wisely with your parents and ask why they've been given your those punishment... Every action taken by our parents toward us must be have to be something they feel necessary for our self-development... You must try to find out the reasons behind those incident...

Answer 8

I moved out of my family's and it was the best thing i could do, i love them but i just can't live with them, i will strongly suggest that you keep in touch, after all they are your family and they DO LOVE you, Don't make them feel unloved becuase as you know it is a very bad feeling, just keep your distance.

Answer 9

your parents have legal rights unless they agree to let you stay with your grandma...your grandma can fight them for custody of you in court and you might be of age to choose.
I hope it does not get to that point...I would let your parents know that you are happy where you are at, have made friends, are doing well in school and would rather stay there with your grandma...have her tell them she would like that too....if they are any kind of parent at all and see that you are doing well they will let you stay where you are at. I hope it works out for you.

be cool...

Answer 10

Maybe you could talk to your parents and grandma and work someting out. Tell them that you like it there, and would like to continue going to school there.