For parent(s) to pick their childs future career, because they are paying for the education. If the child does not want to be what the parent says because the parents think the child cant be anything else. And how would you get out of that with your parents being not really understanding and easily angered.
2007-03-07 00:26:40 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes, it is wrong unless the child truly wants to do it. If they don't, then they're just going to end up hating their job for the fifty or so years they are working at it.
2007-03-07 00:31:31 · answer #1 · answered by Sara B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's wrong for the parents to manipulate their children like that. I don't care what my kids want to do when they grow up as long as they are happy doing it. The most important thing to a parent should be their childs well being and happiness. To pay for something just so they can have control is selfish. Maybe the parents are living out their dreams through their child, or maybe it's just misguided intentions, but either way it's not right. If it was me, I would tell my parents that I'm not happy with their choice, and while I greatly appreciate them paying for it, I would rather take out loans and get a job than have to continue with something that I wouldn't be happy with for the rest of my life. If they don't care or won't change their minds, start filling out those applications--loan and job. Better to suffer for a few years than for the rest of your life.
2007-03-11 07:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by dmarie2101 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, this is a life altering decision and I think your parents are absolutely wrong. A parents job is to support and nuture their child's dream. Honey, you can be ANYTHING you want with ambition and perserverance.
Try and understand though where your parents might be coming from. Most parents want the best they can offer their children. They want to make sure that you have the ability to support yourself and possibly a family without stress and financial worry. Maybe they know what it's like firsthand.
It doesn't make it right though, for them to insist on making this decision for you. Most college students change their major at least twice during their college stay. Most students are still too young and have too little life experience to know exactly who they are and what they want the focus of their life to be.
Maybe you and your parents could agree on putting off this decision for a year while you take classes concentrating on required credits all students need to graduate, no matter their major. If you are really sure you don't fit the mold your parents have in mind for you, Low interest student loans and grants are available and the internet is a great place to find out addition info.
Another avenue might be setting up an appointment with a counselor at school and invite your parents to come to discuss the issue. Maybe they just need more information on your choice of careers to be more comfortable with your decision.
Godd Luck!!!
2007-03-07 09:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by pottshott 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
absolutely its wrong for a parent to pick what they think a child should be when they "grow up". They parent isnt going to be getting up and going to that career everyday the child will be. So what if they parent is paying for the schooling, thats something they are choosing to do out of love. Parents should want their kids to just be happy and sucessful no matter who picks the career.
2007-03-07 08:41:10 · answer #4 · answered by mewiegele 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is absolutely wrong. Every person has to live their own life and follow their own dreams. I have a friend who's son wants to make movies but they have convinced him to be a business major. That is absolutely wrong. If he is serious about the movies he needs to start young. If he fails, he can always get an MBA later. It's not like colleges close their doors after someone turns 22. You might want to consider a double major (I know it's a lot of work). One major in their decision and one in yours. The alternative is finding a way to fund your own education. This might mean working a semester then going to school a semester or only going to school part time. It depends on how much you want something.
2007-03-07 08:47:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally believe it is wrong for a parent to choose a child's future career. People have to do what they want to do, what makes them happy - not stuck somewhere they don't want to be. That is rather cruel of parents to do that. If I had parents like that, I'd say forget it and pursue other ways of financing higher education - student loans and such. Granted...that's how I've been financing my education anyway - pay as I go and student loans.
2007-03-07 08:35:26 · answer #6 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's wrong for anyone to accept money for something and not think that they should have to abide by the conditions under which it was given.
Pay for your own education and then you don't have to concern yourself with what they say in the matter. If you can't or won't pay your own way, then stop complaining about it or don't further your education until you can.
2007-03-07 18:16:34 · answer #7 · answered by marklemoore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is wrong for the parents to choose the career path.
but i guess the kids have the choice to either go to college and not pay and do what others want them to do or they can pay their own way and choose their path.
these are some important decisions that one needs to make for themselves as adults.
2007-03-07 09:57:54 · answer #8 · answered by Miki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, its wrong, but if you want to do something else then tell your parents what that something else is.
They probably think they are doing the best for you, and have worked very hard to give you the best, but try explain to them what it is you would like to do and why!
good luck
2007-03-07 08:36:01 · answer #9 · answered by Christine 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that is totally wrong, take it from somebody with experience. My father chose my career for me and it was totally the opposite of what I wanted....and now here I am 42 years old and in a "mediocre" job that I hate, still dreaming about going back to school. Please don't let that happen.
2007-03-07 11:48:34 · answer #10 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋