He asked me if I would marry him after we get our apartment. I said I would, cause I love him so much. He asked if I could deal with his 2 kids too, of course I can, they are cute as buttons! I told him I promise I would marry him after we got the apartment. He said he didn't want to rush me into something I didn't want, but he really wants to marry. I told him I would be the happiest bride in the world, when the day came that we got married. He was treated bad in past relationships, cheated on and ran over. The girls only wanted him for his money. I love him for who he is. I have promised him I would never cheat on him. I love him to much to hurt him, but he repeatly asks me almost everyday, your going to cheat on me an't cha? It hurst me so bad when he ask me this, he said he asks me all the time, becuase I'm perfect for him and he doesn't want to loose me. I have promised him I wouldn't. I don't know what else to do. I told him it's hurts when he asks me that all the time.
2007-03-07 00:24:28 · 9 answers · asked by angel2005_2001 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He said he would stop asking cause he doesn't want to hurt me. But he asks me again last night. I assure him all the time that I wouldn't cheat on him ever. How can I make him trust and believe me that I'm not going to cheat? I have promised, I call him and tell him where I am and what I'm doing.... I don't know what else to do. Or is it a security issue with him? I just don't understand.....
2007-03-07 00:25:59 · update #1
Congratulations to you !!!! I was in almost the same position.I asked my spouse the same thing and was hurting her to.It took allot of patients on her part to stay.I am so grateful she did.I really can't tell you when the insecurities left but one day the were gone.Talk to him be honest and reassuring to him.It will pass.Suggest to him about talking about it and don't get angry when he does.Good luck to you
2007-03-07 01:04:35 · answer #1 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a course called The Landmark Forum in which people complete their past - i might sugggest you find out about it and the two do it. I am sure it would give you both power in dealing with this and having the extraordinary relationship you have grow and be what you say you want it to be.
if the past goes unchecked it, the past, will rule the day and our relationships will look like the rest of the world going in circles over and over and over.
in the The Landmark Forum people interrupt their past and it gives people a shot at something new.
very remarkable.
2007-03-07 08:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by lowroad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems to be a security issue on his end if you have never cheated on him. As you say, could be because he has been cheated on in the past. My question is why is he asking you to marry him if he does not trust you enough to know you are not going to cheat on him?
It seems to me if he thought you were gonna cheat on him he would not be asking you to marry him. You might ask him why he did that...tell you that you are going to cheat on him all of the time but still ask you to marry him...it does not make sense.
be cool...
2007-03-07 08:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
aww girl he is just still hurt from the other relationships and he doesnt see how you are staying with him but i think it is so sweet that he wants to marry you girl good luck and be blessed i am so sure that everything will work out
ps.
are you going to let me be in the wedding lol :) just playing but i do wish you all the best
2007-03-07 08:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Brandi S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is his insecurity,telling him a thousand times is never enough.
He needs to go and talk to a couseller about his trust issues.
You can beat your head against the wall and it won't change things.
This is out of your hands my dear.
2007-03-07 08:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just have to prove him wrong by not cheating or have any signs of cheating............ Congrats Bride I hope you two last forever
2007-03-07 08:30:34 · answer #6 · answered by sexsired 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, CONGRATS!! my bf of two years still ask me this question. u shud just sit him down, tell him in the face that ur "really tired of hearing the same sentence almost everday, if u really love me u shouldnt doubt me n keep popping e question" .
2007-03-07 08:30:28 · answer #7 · answered by charlie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well that's a relief. We can't be having any 'J' curves in the family tree, can we.
2007-03-07 08:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by John M 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the way you care his kids could ascertain him that your love for him and kids alone
2007-03-07 08:31:02 · answer #9 · answered by david j 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋