i was recently involved with a woman and things were going well except her ex husband was around all the time even when the kids were in bed. i thought this was a problem because he was there even when i wasn't .i got really peeved with this but never moaned as such.
now she has finished with me for no reason and i have no idea why. should i just leave her alone to get on with it? or should i try to contact her? i am not sure which way to go on this can anybody help me on this one
2007-03-07 00:20:40 · 16 answers · asked by trigga01001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are refusing to accept the fact that the woman allowed the ex to be around all the time because he's the father of her children and they obviously still have something going. You're an outsider and she has clearly communicated to you that you are better off with someone else. The whole scene is against you and fighting it is not really going to change much.
You're "flogging a dead horse" as they used to say in England and it accomplishes nothing. Wean yourself away from this woman by refusing to talk to her, phone her, write to her or communicate in any way shape or form. The first couple of months are the hardest but eventually you will get some space away from the relationship and see that you're not on the right track. Move on!
2007-03-07 00:50:57 · answer #1 · answered by pianofritz2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is time to move on....why didn't you move on when you became aware that ex-hubby was paying evening visits AFTER the children went to bed. I am sure you will find someone who appreciates you. Do not contact this one for any reason, she told you she is finished with you, I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of letting her know that you cared so much...she does not deserve you. Good luck.
2007-03-07 08:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by sunset 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, I think you at least deserve a reason especially as you moved in with her. Personally, I don't think she was over her ex-husband - it's a bit odd that he spends so much time round at her place and I think it shows a lack of respect to you. I think you should leave her be (after hopefully getting an explanation) and move on - find someone with no exes hanging around, it'll screw you up.
2007-03-07 08:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by long_luscious_lashes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would forget about her, with her ex on the scene all the time things are still complicated, you are better finding someone who doesn't have an ex who thinks they can pop round all the time, and if she really did care about you then why didn't she explain about her ex and what exactly he does round there when the kids are in bed she should be putting your mind at eases and making you see that she wants to be with you not him
2007-03-07 09:50:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that she was using you to make her ex jealous....that's why he was around alot (checking up on her). It probably worked and he wants her back so she is ending it with you for him. I would leave her alone...she isnt worth your time. I know this is hard if you think you were falling in love with her but it is better for you if she still had feelings for her ex.
2007-03-07 08:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by louise 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's most likely that you were the rebound guy. If you contact her and try to "repair" things, she'll shut you down unless something happens between her & her ex-husband. Then she'll try & work her way back into your life. Don't let her.
2007-03-07 08:31:35 · answer #6 · answered by Paul P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on man - she obviously finished with you for a reason and feels too guilty to tell you what that is...probably the ex.
These things happen.
2007-03-07 09:23:51 · answer #7 · answered by Richard D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mmmm.. that is a hard one! have you asked her why?? sounds like the ex does not want her but does not want any1 else to have her or he could be very jealous of another man around his kids..my bro in law was like that when he split from his wife..he didnt want her but as soon as another man came on the scene he didnt like it cauz of the kids! on the other hand she is going to want him to be a dad for the kids sake but i can see your point of view as he should not be there when the kids are in bed,he has no reason to be or has he??? you need to ask her mate? so you can get on with your life as it is too short to be mucked round. good luck and happiness!
2007-03-07 08:29:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve an explantion on why she just finished it, you should ask her. It sounds like she has finished with you to try with her ex again, more fool her.
2007-03-07 08:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..move on.She didnt even have the guts/courtesy to explain.
Just more trouble and hearthache for you if you pursue this one.
More on..
Good Luck
2007-03-07 08:24:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋