All my life ive been like this and ive never been in a relationship and im 19 years old, I try to talk to people but my mind goes blank and i dont know what to say and just stutter and look like a fool so I just stay away from the public..how can i solve this?
2007-03-07 00:13:11 · 5 answers · asked by IC4NDY_ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This takes more than a single email to answer, but I'll give you six steps that will help you right away.
1. Get off the computer and force yourself to get out of the house.
2. Go to Barnes and Nobles and read every book you can on being assertive, communicating with confidence, and how to dress to impress. Go to my main site, www.BrianNorris.com and print out some of my articles of how to have a good attitude. Once you print them out, get out of the house. Or, take your laptop to a coffee shop with people and read the articles on-line.
3. To get over your fears I want you to start making eye contact with EVERY person you see. Once you make eye contact, just hi or how's it going with a sincere smile. Practice makes perfect. After a few dozen tries you'll see how good it feels to recognize and give feedback to others.
4. Now, start paying sincere compliments to the people you meet. Remember, smile, stand up straight, make good eye contact and speak slowly. I used to stutter all the time, because I was shy and not confident either.
5. See every person you meet as an opportunity to improve. Eventually, people will start talking to you because they'll see you're a socially confident person. Along the way, read mags like People, Cosmo, GQ and Newsweek (or read them on-line) so that you're knowledgeable about popular culture and world events.
6. If someone doesn't respond favorably to you, move on. They're just one person out of billions. Don't let their negative attitude steal your positivity.
Good Luck,
Brian Norris
www.positively.biz
2007-03-07 00:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be confident in yourself! That's what really attracts a girl to a guy, is when a guy believes he's a great guy with a great personality. Don't be ego bound though. That just runs girls aways. Relax when your talking to a girl. Be bold, just do it. If you see a cute girl ask her how her day is going start small talk and ask for her number or a date.
Believe in yourself. Your worth it!
2007-03-07 08:17:59 · answer #2 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to make friends the opposite character than you.
2007-03-07 08:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww...that so sad and sweet at the same time!!! just be your self. you prob. went to public school and everything. So i am sure you had friends but really just be yourself. if u want you can e-mail me and i can help u with it!!
2007-03-07 08:23:38 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself and maybe you will get a girlfriend! We love that!
2007-03-07 08:21:51 · answer #5 · answered by froggagoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋