i met this guy online & then in real life & after a short but intense luv story he proposed.but when my parents met him & his parents after asking about them,they refused because they're of a relatively lower social & financial standard than us.i told my parents that i didn't feel that & that i love the guy & he loves me so much & we at least deserve a chance 2 get engaged & if we can't get along then we'd go our separate ways but it has 2 b our decision & not theirs.is that 2 much 2 ask?we love each other so much & my parents just can't understand that cuz i only knew him for 4 months b4 they met him.now it's bin 7 months that we've bin 2gether & our love grows stronger everyday.my parents want someone better financially & standard-wise & i just want him.would i b unrealistic if i ignored them & stayed with him till they eventually give in & agree simply bcuz i'm so attached 2 him?he has a decent job & his own appartment & he's a very responsible & caring person & that's y i luv him
2007-03-06 23:59:43 · 8 answers · asked by poussin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if he treats u well and respects you, forget ur family..ur the one who will be living with him and ur the one marrying him. explain to your family while u respect their opinion thats all it is, their opinion..you have to make the choice and live with it...let them know he works, has his own apt, respects u..its not all about $ all the time....u could do so much worse
2007-03-07 00:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to right to make the decision for your own life. i would be with someone for a minimum of 2 years before i married because then you'll really know each other and have a better chance of staying together. if your young, wait a little longer people change, that doesnt mean your feelings will but you want to stay on the safe side. as for your parents you are their little girl and always will be and they will always want what is best for you. they dont want to see you struggle. but if you give it enough time and still feel the same, they will come to realize that everythign will be ok. you can continiue to date him but hold off on engagement and marriage for a while. you can explain this to him to. rushing into engagement may add stress to your relationhip and being a young relationsip that wouldnt be good
good luck and remember to always follow your heart, after all that is what makes you happy.
2007-03-07 00:10:45 · answer #2 · answered by .......... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You haven't told us some basics, such as:
1. How old you two are.
2. Where you live.
Most of us here live in cultures where the parents would not be regarded as having the right to say No, if the parties involved are 18 years or older.
2007-03-07 01:30:01 · answer #3 · answered by Curt Monash 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if you love him go for it! Money doesn't buy love. Money doesn't buy happiness. It may for a little while but in the end everyone is going to miserable at the end. You need to do what makes you happy.
I just moved in with my bf after a month. I have known him for like a year almost now, but we have only been an item for a month. My parents aren't happy that I moved in with him, because it's against our religous standards but they are happy that I'm happy.
You need to make your own choices. Let you heart lead you to where you need to go. Take a chance, if it doesn't work out you can atleast say you tried. Your parents can't live life for you. You hhave to live your own life and grow up and take responsibilty for your actions. I learned this the hard way. I was 21 living at home with a 10 o'clock curfew thru the week, and 12 on the weekends. Now I'm happy because the only person I have to please is my bf. I don't have to worry about my parents opinion. They are your parents and are just looking out for you, but if you listen to them your going to wind up miserable. You need to stand up for yourself, even if it takes running off to get married. If that's what you and your bf truly want is to be married and have a family and each other, that's what you need to work torwards getting. Your parents may not give you their blessing but they will come to relize that your in love with him, and will learn to accept him.
Good Luck!
2007-03-07 00:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by angel2005_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey as long as he treats you good and loves you with the same passion as you love him go for it.Love doesn't know finances.Have a long engagement just because he proposed dosent mean you have to marry right away.Hopefully your family will come around.Make shure you are in love with him then talk to your family and let them know how you feel.GOOD LUCK and congratulations on your engagement
2007-03-07 00:35:55 · answer #5 · answered by Heather T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family members and that i went from decrease middle classification, to middle classification to top middle classification through out my existence. They worked truly confusing to the position they are literally. fantastically now that my brother and that i have been out of the living house, they have more suitable funds to have a good time with themselves with. i have been very blessed.
2016-12-05 08:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares what your parents say, just f u c k and s u c k each other. That's what counts.
2007-03-07 00:07:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
leave the man alone, u will never be happy with him , let him find real love
2007-03-07 00:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋