How much do you really sacrifice when you have children, will i still have time to play in my band (i am 25)?

Answer 1

you dont have to sacrifice anything. you can play in your band and take care of your children too. they are not animals they can grow on their own with some space. good luck

Answer 2

It all depends hun.

If you manage your time well and have your child on a good schedule and have them in bed by lets say 7:00pm and also you have someone you can trust, like a mom or sister, who can watch the baby while you play in the band then yes you can still play in a band.

I must tell you though most likely you are slowly going to have to give up the band if you want to be the best Mom you can be, especially if you happen to not have a lot of help from family.

You'll know instinctively if you should continue to play in the band or not. Life is all about sacrifices and your children are the most important thing in the world. You may have to put your dreams on hold for a little while but instead you will have the greatest dream in return, a beautiful baby who looks to you for everything.

You give them life and you teach them everything you know. That child will be your life long project, your masterpiece, invest all the time you can on them because they need the constant guidance, attention and love.

Answer 3

I'd say that there can be a healthy balance. You have to make tremendous sacrifices for your children depending on what is best for them, yet it is crucial to make time for yourself in order to be the best mom you can be. Being a mom can be physically and emotionally draining, believe me. I have a 2 1/2 year old, a 9 month old and one on the way and I'm only 23 years old. You sacrifice your wants and desires, but you shouldn't lose your identity. Yes, I am a mother, but that is not all I am. I am a person with hobbies and interests too, but being a mom is my number one priority. By the way, I do stay at home with my two and will be homeschooling them because I feel that's best. I'd say that you need a good support team to back you up. You can enjoy the band, but only in your spare time if you manage to find any.

Answer 4

Really it depend on how much help you have looking after the little one. If you have a good partner that does his share, or family that will help out you can usually still find time to do the things you really want (it is still hard work though!)
There is a lot of sacrifice involved with having kids but it definately is all worth it!

Answer 5

My life changed completely - i have a new life altogether and by choice. I am 35 so maybe at 25 I would not have been prepared to sacrifice like i am now.
Playing in a band will be a bit hard especially as you may feel distracted but it can also turn out to be a relief, though you bandmates may have hard time with your new schedule...

Answer 6

If you only play one or two nights a week. Or maybe a month. It also depends on if you have a day job. If you're fortunate enough to be a stay at home mom, if you leave the kiddies with daddy in the evenings a few nights a week that should be fine. Just remember that little ones wake at the crack of dawn so no more late nights out. But if you do have to have a regular job then you'll be robbing your kids of your time, And this at a time when they really need you because how much time you spend with them helps shape who they are. Of course, as they get older they could come with you. Or better yet, you could teach them how to play and they could become a band themselves.

Answer 7

I had my son at 21 and thanks to a great partner and supportive parents on both sides I still get a decent amount of free time. I usually get one night out a month (sounds cr@p doesn't it? If someone had told me they were pleased to get out once a month before I had my son I would have laughed) and I get to the gym once a week and other groups too becuase my partner is home at night.

The spontenuity disappears and that is the main thing I miss and my friends (all without kids) don't seem to take into account. I get texts at 6pm on a sat night asking if I'm coming out but as I'm covered in baby food and not bathed the answer is more often than not no.

I also miss after work drinks becuase I don't work anymore and the time between 5 and 7 pm is my busiest!

Realisticly though if I get a day or two warning I can be at a social event as long as it is after tea time as I know he goes to bed now at 7pm no problems. But it takes a while for them to get into a good routine so your probably safer planning nothing for the first few months until you get into the swing of things!

As long as you have support there is no reason why your post baby social life can't resemble your pre one in some ways - just not all!

I also never get proper p!ssed anymore - no matter how hard I try!

Answer 8

I think it's possible to do both, but you'll have to sacrifice a little of both. A child will take time away from your band and the band will take time away from your child. Nobody can be Mommy 24/7 and all mothers need time away to be themselves and do what makes them happy....that's part of it. But, you'll probably find that you have less time to dedicate to the band. The good news is, that probably won't bother you much, because you won't want to spend TOO much time away from the precious child....at least that's what I found!

Answer 9

My motorcycle was everything for me. I choose to be a mom and spend the time I went riding with my son instead. I sold the bike. Every decision from that point on changes because you no longer think of yourself, you have to think what will be good for your child. So you do have to make big sacrifices. Make sure that you can be there for that child all the time. I'm not saying you should give up everything in your life that makes you happy now but alter them to include your baby and family.

Answer 10

its different for each person I suppose, in my case I have sacrificed my entire social life as I have no support network to look after baby if I do go out. But some people have friends and family who are more willing to help out allowing them more freedom.
Thats all I've sacrificed really, I still manage to study for my degree course (i'm 27 so am a mature student) still manage to work to as I find I'm better off that way and study whilst I'm at work so my home time is pure baby time. I've even recently managed to fit some jogging into the daytime routine once I've dropped baby off at nursery.
Come to think of it it is just my night life that has gone out the window.

Answer 11

Your life will become your children and once you see your first child's angelic face and smile being totally helpless and dependent on you, you will not want it any other way. But this doesn't mean giving up on your dreams. Having children and being happy is all about achieving a balance. Yes, if you are going to be a good parent, you will have to put their needs first but remember that children just need love, attention and support and not necessarily material things! :)