I recently met a guy who has confessed that he is still living with his ex , he says its over and he does not want to be with her and she will be moving out in a week or 2. He says he told me because he wants to be honest with me because he really likes me. Could that be it? i wouldnt have known if he didnt tell me we live quite far apart....but i cant help thinking he has a hidden agenda.
I'm tempted to just say nothing more until a couple of weeks have passed if she doesnt move out then I have my answer?
2007-03-06 23:51:45 · 35 answers · asked by anna63 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my cousin thinks i should invite him to stay at mine for the weekend - if he comes friday - sunday then they must be over? i can also see if she is calling him? what do you guys think?
2007-03-07 01:59:19 · update #1
i think he tel u that because i do not what 2 tell u lie lie no longer. and that he don't want still what u.
Best thing 2 do is asking him y he is doing this.
Good luck x
2007-03-07 00:07:00 · answer #1 · answered by cold_ice23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is being nothing but honest with you. He must feel you two can go somewhere or there would have been no point in telling you right? He had the courtesy to tell you and that is a good thing, you should be happy he is being honest and stop being so paranoid! It is so hard these days to find an affordable property on your own, I would assume he is not there out of choice but for financial reasons. Relax and enjoy being with him, especially such an honest man!
2007-03-07 04:14:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe him!
He told you that he still lives with someone in case you found out.
If the relationship was really over, one have them would have gone by now. Could you live with an ex ?
You could wait the 2 weeks, but you'll only have his word for it then, you say you live quite far apart, so may not be able to confirm his story either way!
I say dump him! Sorry
2007-03-07 00:24:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he told you voluntarily that hes living with her then Id see that as a good sign. But its also very hard on you to accept this fact- hes been intimate with this girl - in love with her - spent a lot of time with her and of course thats going to be a doubt factor fr you.
On one hand he could genuinely living there due to circumstances such as money, beyond his control.
Then again if there is a hidden agenda hes kinda screwed it up for himself by telling you - as as you said you wouldnt have known otherwise - so I think he was being honest with you.
Id give it a go and see what happens.
xx
2007-03-07 00:20:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation happened to me, except, I didn't know that the new guy I was seeing had slept with his roommate. He told me they were just friends and nothing had ever happened. We're actually married now, 3 years later. BUT, I only found out after he moved back to London (we met in Chicago and were together for a short time until I decided to move here.....). I took him to the airport and was gutted, his friend took me out for a drink later that day and ended up telling me my boyfriend had slept with his roommate. I was SO angry, and couldn't believe I took him back and left everything I had to move here. It's so important to be honest, and I'm making myself mad just thinking about your situation. If you don't trust him, then leave him. There's really no point if you don't trust him, because it's the basis of any relationship. He didn't have to tell you. Only you can decide, but if she doesn't move out, then I would ditch him.
2007-03-06 23:59:07 · answer #5 · answered by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if she moves out, he may well be telling the truth. I had to stay in the same house as my ex for 3 months before we could live apart, it was almost the end of our rental contract and it would have cost us financially too much to separate before then. I moved in to the spare bedroom, so he could be in a similar situation.
2007-03-07 00:17:52 · answer #6 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well at least he told you, i could think of lots of guys who wouldnt, you may have found yourself a very honest man, but as he said she is moving out in 2 weeks see if this happens! if she continues to stay and he then ends up making excuses for why she isant going then maybe alarm bells may ring, but he didnt lie id give him a chance
2007-03-06 23:57:08 · answer #7 · answered by lydia w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur being a wee bit harsh on the guy u should learn to trust him after all that is wot realtionships are built on. if u dnt have trust u have nothing.
if u ask him up 4 the weekend he ment sense u dnt trust him and myt end up calling it a day with u.
i think u should jst leave things the way they are right now if she moves then she does if she doesnt then start askin questions but 4 now u should have no reason to doubt him
2007-03-07 07:29:37 · answer #8 · answered by jackie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy moly. We cry out in exasperation for the menfolk to be honest and to communicate with us and when they do we think they are lying. Will we ever learn?
Do what you think - say nothing until it is obvious she is off the scene, tell him you appreciate him being honest with you, his situation does make you feel uncomfortable but he is obviously not throwing her out with nowhere to go, he is giving her time.
He sounds like a rare one to be honest and you have only just met, give it time and don't scare him off by getting all para.
2007-03-07 00:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by rondavous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
an honest bloke is good. Why are you doubting him? Like you say he didn't have to tell you. Tell him you want to cool off a bit untill she has moved out and then you know every thing is ok for you two to have a relationship.
2007-03-07 01:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from past experances i would be very carefully, and you are on the ball wait a couple of weeks see if the ex has left. another thing is if she moves out are you moving in. could arise my answer would be you dont jump in the deep end if you dont know how to swim. be safe
2007-03-07 00:15:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋