if ur in the military how did some of u people reading this tell ur family u wanted or u did join?

Question

I WANT TO JOIN THE ARMY BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO TELL ANYONE THAT I WANT TO. I NERVOUS AND SCARED. ALSO I HAVE THE TYPE OF FAMILY THAT ITS EMBARESSING TALKING ABOUT JOINING. I DONTKNOW WHY MY FAMILY IS LIKE THAT, THEY JUST R.

Answer 1

I started off by telling the benefits the military had to offer an young individual and that it instills discipline and responsibility (which youth today don't have) I told them it would open me to the world and also provide valuable job training for a future career. It also pays for college and there are many educational benefits offered while you are serving.

My parents were hesitant at first, but glad I made the decision to join. With the world today it's not that they don't want you to join, they just don't want to see their child get hurt or killed.

Bottom line, once you're 18 and you really want to do it, they cannot stop you. I do commend you on wanting their approval and wanting them involved with this major life decision.

Answer 2

How old are you? I joined then I told my family. Make it your choice.. this is your life and your decisions. No one can tell you otherwise or you will always wonder. Make it YOUR own decision, not someone else's. It is OK to be scared and nervous, you will feel up and down (happy, scared, content, nervous, motivated, dedicated etc etc... you will feel both negative and positive along the way and it's OK) in the course of your time of service but as long as it is your own choice and your decision, you can live with it without blaming anyone else but yourself. Good luck!
Edit: My dad was totally against it and when I graduated, he was very proud of me. I am proud of myself and I don't regret joining. I will re-enlist.

Answer 3

When I wanted to join the military, I laid out all the benefits of joining. Then, I set up an appointment so my mom and dad could go meet my recruiter and ask any and all questions they had about me joining. My mom was still alittle nervous about it, but, she felt much better about the whole situation. I was definately old enough to join without permission and I told her that I wasn't looking for her permission but I wanted her approval.

Answer 4

I told them that I wanted to join. Since I was 17 and needed their permission, I explained that they could either sign the papers, or I would wait until I was 18 and do it then. They signed the papers.

While I was recruiting, my job was not just to get kids to join, but to also convince their parents that it was a good thing. Invite your recruiter over to the house and have him explain to your folks what the deal is. Let you folks know he is coming over, tho. You DON'T want to spring that on them unannounced.

Answer 5

If you want to do it badly enough, just tell them. They'll be upset at first, might even threaten you, but in the long run they'll love you more for it. I was in the same situation. Only instead of waiting to tell them, I just did it. I came home from college and told them that I had joined the Army and that I was leaving for basic in 2 weeks. Of course while I was at basic I got letters from my mother telling me how upset she was and stuff, but she got over it.
Just prepare yourself by reaffirming to yourself why you want to do it, and then tell them those reasons. They might be upset at first, but like I said, you're family, they'll still love you.

Answer 6

Wow, I joined the military, and was discharged for medical reasons right before leaving for boot camp. I'm glad now. You should read this article: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2007/02/18/AR2007021801335.html?referrer=

It is a real eye opener. My husband was also in the military when we met. I support our troops, but this was an eye opener.

Answer 7

I will tell you how my husband did it. When we married, he was national guard, but going active duty was a big step. He loves the army, but wouldnt have joined unless I was behind him 100%. So instead of telling me he was going to do it, he asked me what I thought about it. So that I was part of the process. It is important to keep those people close to you in the loop....listen to what other people have to say, instead of shutting them out and telling them about your decision.

Answer 8

I just came out and told them. The ones who had a big problem with it, I just didn't talk to them. They got over it. 6 months of no contact during training does wonders to change someones mind, and after training you will have time to contact family and friends.

Answer 9

I told them after I joined! They understood that I was old enough to make my own decisions. My family would support me no matter what. I'm sure your family is not that different.

Answer 10

i just told my parents. my mom was a little nervous or scared maybe and my dad was mad but its your decision not theirs.