When RSVP-ing to a Wedding Invite, what is the correct etiquette?

Question

It's to a friend of my boyfriends wedding and he's not seen them in ages (used to be in a band together years ago and lost touch after it broke up).

I think it'll be okay just to send a general use notecard. I'm just wondering what to write, is it okay just to say that we'd love to go and can't wait to see them and catch up? or should it be more formal?

Answer 1

First of all it seems from the answers you are receiving a lot depends on the country you live in. Many are mentioning RSVP cards included with the invitation. I live in Scotland and this is certainly not the norm. Certainly in the last few years this has became a thing the odd person has done, including my own daughters but here an RSVP card included is a bit unusual. However, correct etiquette would be wherever you are to reply in the manner worded on the invitation you have received. If worded formally as Mr & Mrs ------------- invite you to the wedding or their daughter............to Mr ............... or if the couple themselves worded it in a formal manner. Easily done as you just get an acceptance card from a good card or stationery shop. If informal as in the parents using their first names or the couple using their first names if doing the inviting then a general use notecard could be fine, just thanking them for their invitation and you would be delighted to attend etc. Probably even if worded like that, here anyway most people would still find it easier just to get a pre worded acceptance card. Trust this helps you.

Answer 2

I've never seen a wedding invitation that didnt come with the rsvp card along with it, does this actually happen?

I guess is your didnt come with the rsvp card, then yes, send an informal note saying that you will attend. But I would check the envelope again and just make sure that you didnt get an RSVP card and return envelope (it may be stuck inside the envelope already) and if you did get one, you have to send that rsvp card back. Those crad sare sent out for a reason and they will help keep the bride and groom organized, you can add a note in with that card if you want, but you have to send that card back.

Answer 3

The invitation gave no indication of the thank you to RSVP? No card? No telephone quantity to call? that is strange. i does not deliver a written RSVP if a card wasn't coated. in basic terms tell the bride your self.

Answer 4

The correct thing would have been for them to include a response card and return envelope with their invitation. If they did not then a general notecard or even a phone call should suffice.

Answer 5

I wouldn't worry about etiquette when obviously the bride & groom don't. If they did, they would have enclosed a previously stamped & addressed RSVP card for you to just write your name and send back.

I would just write a note that says:

"David & Victoria

We received your wedding invitation, it's beautiful! We are honored that you thought of us and will be attending. Good Luck to you both and have fun!!!

Sincerely,
Tom & Katie"

Just a quick note...not too wordy.

Answer 6

Why don't you send the RSVP card with just the normal "we'll be attending ........" bit and then give them a call, or send an email or just send another card saying something like "can't wait to see you guys" ect.

Answer 7

I am confused too.. they should have included a RSVP card but if they didn't then I would just use a general note card like you are saying. Very strange!

Answer 8

You just fill out the RSVP card you got, and if you want, you can add a line under the printed part.

Answer 9

If the invitation says your friend invites them, then what you suggest is fine.

However, if 'The Parents of Miss x' invite you, buy a proper RSVP card and send it.

Answer 10

What you propose is fully acceptable. There's no need to be formal with this. The important thing to remember is that, having invited you, the sender will be happy for you to attend.