my engagement split up, were now just good friends is it unlucky to wea the ring on a different finger, or is it just unlucky to continue to wear it on thewedding finger
2007-03-06 22:51:49 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
probably you should give it back to him. why would you want to be wearing something which symbolises your future together as a couple? It's not like a mood ring darling. take it off, return it to him, and go buy your own diamond. silly woman.
2007-03-06 22:54:55 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥~mama-to-be~♥~ 4 · 10⤊ 3⤋
Ok someone has to put the legal perspective in here. It's unromantic and has nothing to do with superstition so I won't win best answer, but someone has to mention it. Technically a proposal is a contract. The engagement ring is really no more than a replacement of the formerly observed bride price. He gave you the ring and you gave him your promise to marry him. Now that you no longer promise to marry him, you legally cannot keep the ring. He can sue you for the return of the ring, and that would be a very unlucky day.
Now common culture says if the man is the one who ends the engagement, the bride keeps it in exchange for half of the nonrefundable deposits she has paid at places for the wedding. If you have no nonrefundable deposits, you give back the ring. If the bride calls off the engagement, she gives back the ring. She broke the contract.
As far as pure "luck" goes, yes if you believe in karma and you kept something that does not belong to you, then yes it's very unlucky.
Sometimes you have an ex who doesn't care and tells you to keep it and if so, then that is fine (though I still wouldn't keep it). Everytime you wear it you are telling your ex he still has a chance to get back together with you, to make it up, to resume the relationship exactly where you left off. Many women I know kept the ring and wore it on the right hand if there were intending to let the ex back into their lifes. It was a way for him to know she thinks about their commitment everyday when she puts it on and continues to let other guys know that her heart is taken. Right hand or left hand, an enagement ring from another man will only attract cheaters and losers.
And if you are looking to date again, that would be very unlucky.
2007-03-07 00:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in exactly the same position. My fiance and I split up last year and are still good friends. As we are friends there was never any need to give the ring back as some people have suggested. If you are friends why should you? And I assume if you are friends then there must have been a lot of good times between you so why shouldn't you keep hold of the ring as a lasting memory of the good times?
I don't believe in bad luck I'm afraid, but if you do then try looking at it this way...the worst has already happened and you have separated! I carried on wearing my ring on my other hand for a while, but have gradually stopped. Not for any big reason, it just didn't quite feel right anymore now that I'm in another relationship.
Just do whatever feels right for both of you.
2007-03-06 23:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Jooles 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Strictly speaking the ring should be given back but if your ex was happy for you to keep the ring then no problem wearing it as a dress ring. It is certainly not unlucky unless you are a superstitious person!!! Again no more unlucky to wear it on the wedding finger but what would be the point in that? Certainly would be harder to get a new boyfriend if he thinks you are attached!!!
2007-03-07 02:05:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ms Mat Urity 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi I woudnt say its unlucky to wear the ring at all as its still a gift of someone. I guess you wont be wearing it on your wedding finger which probably would seem rather odd than unlucky especially if you not engaged. I would perhaps wear it on the other finger not your wedding finger as this is probably the only finger it will fit as it will be the correct size. But there is no reason you shouldnt wear it unless you dont want to if you feel uneasy about wearing it but you dont want to not wear it because he give it to you and you still are close friends. Why not just put it somewhere safe.
2007-03-07 05:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I don't think it is unlucky to wear, but you wouldn't want to wear it on your engagement/wedding finger, given that you are no longer engaged?
Also it might give off the wrong signals to potential new relationships if you are still wearing an ex-fiances engagment ring.
2007-03-06 22:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by louloubelle 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if it's unlucky but personally why would you want to wear the ring from someone you're no longer with?
Why not sell it and buy something new?
2007-03-08 09:58:41 · answer #7 · answered by wendywitch 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No i don't think its bad luck to wear it on any finger .. When my first engangement ended i gave the ring to my aunty so someone could still get use out of it and went and brought another one to wear in place of the engangement ring .. i just couldnt get use to not having a ring there, it just made me feel better .. Wearing it on the ring finger could also help if your not ready for a new relationship as guys will think your taken and hopefully will not hassle you.
2007-03-06 23:38:19 · answer #8 · answered by channy_simon 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you are alone and hoping to find someone else dont wear it on the wedding finger as you will put off any bloke who may be attracted to you by making him think you are 'taken' Have your belly button pierced and wear it there then no one will see it..........unless you want them to. Who knows you may end up back with your ex fiancee..lifee is strange and throws up some funny situations.
2007-03-07 02:37:52 · answer #9 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Woman has to return the ring and man should not wear until engaged again.
2007-03-06 23:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by bright_neon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When i broke an engagement i just swapped`the ring to the other hand. Its obviously a design that you are fond of because you chose it to wear for the rest of your life. Definitely don't give it back - its a non-refundable deposit. I chose not to wear it on the wedding ring finger because that sends out all the wrong messages. Its a new start but still a nice ring, i say wear it.
2007-03-06 23:01:26 · answer #11 · answered by zoe d 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋