how does it feel like when you're falling out of love with someone?

Question

i have been feeling very weird recently . have been with my bf almost a year.
we are supposed to go on hols and i don't want to go ...

he dissappointed me recently - his behaviour etc. - or I'm getting to know him better perhaps ...

Answer 1

Im speaking from experience...when you fall out of love the other person tends to irritate the crap out of you, you just prefer being alone and all you can think about is breaking up..if this is how you feel, i suggest you get out of this relationship before more damage is done.

Answer 2

You don't just "fall out of love." It's something that takes a lot of time and a lot of warning signals. If you've only been with him a year it could be just a normal period of monotony, where you're use to eachother and getting bored.

Bottom line is look at the big picture. Is this someone you can see spending your whole life with? Do you have the same values, morals and general goals in life?

Going on holiday might be just what you need. Go find that spark that connected you two and explore new things about eachother. Try to discover something new about your boyfriend.

Good luck and remember, relationships take work.

Answer 3

Perhaps you're not falling out of love persay. Maybe you never were really in love with him and now the honeymoon is over. You said, "maybe I'm getting to know him better", and this is common. After a certain point, all of the different dimensions of our personalities and the people we've become surface. If you don't like what you're starting to see, be careful because it's not likely to change. Maybe it's time to move on. Good luck.

Answer 4

you obviously will be getting to know each other more, and soon the rose tinted glasses fall of and you become aware of each others habits and maybe what you first found cute and endearing have now become annoying, the first few months of a relationship is always exciting you are madly in lust and excited and cant wait to see each other and you get that butterfly feeling, then as you become use to each other and your little ways it starts to become a little less exciting and more a routine, where you are comfortable and happy with each other, if you feel things are getting in a rut talk it over with your boyfriend and do different things with and without each other so you will have new things to talk about and places to go, if you feel things still aren't right maybe you are best parting company as it wouldn't be fair on you or him when you could find someone else that will make you happy

Answer 5

You may be falling out of love with him but to be honest, I think it depends on the person as to how they feel when the love goes. I did not realise that I was out of love with my ex until I was away from him for a few days. I realised that I felt nothing for him and has not done for a long time and that realisation was just as painful as splitting up with him. Maybe he did not show his true colours until now and that is why your feelings are changing towards him? Maybe some time away with him on holiday may help, maybe away from the mundane things to realise how you feel about him may help. Or maybe spending some time alone will be better, only you can make that choice. Good luck. x

Answer 6

I am in the same situation as you at the mo, little things are getting anoying, but then when i hink of life without him oh my it hurts to the point of me feeling quite sick, and ive never had that before in any relationship.
Think about it long and hard before making any rash decioson, he you still get that butterfly feeling when you see him then sick with it!!! my mum and dad been together 50 yrs and they still niggle at each other but hell they love each other so much.
A holiday would be good for you both different settings and you will not have anone around that can waver your thoughts, it will make or break you but hey atleast youll know. good luck

Answer 7

falling out of love is like falling out of a tree; there's nothing you can do till you hit the bottom. Perhaps he has taken off the mask and is showing you the real him. He might be testing you to see how much you can cope with OR he might have eyes for somebody else and is driving you away.

Answer 8

Hi, well I was with the father of my children for eleven years and this happened to me. He just turned me off big time, with the way the he acted, he was really immature, he wore clothes that just made me puke, when I had his two children he really turned me off because he was not an adult about things and he didn't take responsibility what so ever. I guess he just made me so sick after a while I couldn't even stand him near me, to touch me, kiss me even talk to me so I'm not sure what your your situation is but maybe there is something that you just don't really like about him and it turned you off big time. If you want to be with the guy tell him what it is that you don't like and tell him how it makes you feel but know this, a person can't change who they really are.

Well good luck.

Answer 9

I dont know how it feels to fall out of love but I know how it feels to be in love and I know I dont ever have to sit and think... 'Am I in love with him?'

So, if you are having to thinking about it, I'm guessing your not in love.

Plenty more fish in the sea though, if this guys not for you. It would also be unfair to string him along. He deserves to be with someone who loves him as much as he loves them.

Having said that, if your just going through a rough patch, it may be worth working through it.

What does your heart say?

Answer 10

i went through the same i was with a guy for 2 years and at the start u are mad about them but then u get to know them so well and begin to think that u cant see yourself with them forever. if u cant picture yourself being with him forever u are probably falling out of love with him. end it now before u end up hurting him.