2007-03-06 22:29:21 · 21 answers · asked by sunflower 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
as a mother of two grown children I have learned from listening to them and watching my friends it is best to start a family after
and only after you have lived your life and done all the partying you feel you need to do as to become a decated parent to be there for your childrens lives and give them full attention that is required of you being a parent is a full time commitment
2007-03-06 22:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should start a family when you are financially stable. It's best when there are 2 people in the household. Someone, preferably the husband should at the very least hold a full-time job while the mother cares for the baby. kids cost a lot, so someone needs to make money beforehand and during this time. when a person is ready varies. Nothing earlier than the mid 20's. I had my first child when I was 30 and my husband was 27!
The ideal time is when both parents already have completed any training or education before having children!!
2007-03-07 07:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by Just me. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once you are old enough to have enjoyed your youth i.e. don't rush into at 16, 18 ore ven 20. you don't want to have regrets when you grow up that you didn't have enough fun at this age. My mother in law had her first at 20 and regrets not having had more fun with boys etc before settling down. I started at 26 which was great as I'd been working for a while so had some cash but didn't feel like I would miss out on my career if I took a break. Don't wait too long though as there is an increase in problems both for you and the baby the older you get although healthcare is much better so you can do it older. Also, you want to do it when you've got enough energy to cope.
2007-03-07 06:35:35 · answer #3 · answered by FC 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Age really does not matter. My husband and I started a family when I was 34 and I am glad we waited. You have to look at all aspects of starting a family. Are you really ready for the responsibility of having a child? Does your family have financial stability? Having a child means putting your child first before your desires or wants and you need to be selfless. It is sometimes hard to do but it is worth it. Your whole life changes, trust me.
I chose to quit working when I had my daughter. I am blessed to have a husband that makes enough money for me to stay home. It is not like I had a low paying job either. I just decided my raising my daughter was more important than me working and I do not regret leaving. Now I now that is not for everyone but are you willing to miss some of your childs most important milestones by leaving them with a day care provider. Just some things to consider prior to having a baby.
2007-03-07 08:54:43 · answer #4 · answered by paddocklke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very personal question one in which you will receive LOTS of different answers for. For me the answer was to wait, until I had finished my education, exited the Army, been married to my husband long enough that our relationship is solid... I had my first son at 31 years old...now I find I'm the older mom in lots of social/sport/activities situation... and a lot of women my age have teenagers... however, now they are finishing degrees and getting back into the work force and I'm already established and financially stable... so............. see what others say and make the decision that is best for you!
2007-03-07 06:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by i_love_my_mp 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that definately varies from person to person. It all is about if you are ready emotionally and maybe even financially - although I do not think anyone is ever ready completely financially. But it does help if you are somewhat financially ready.
I got married at 22 and had my 1st child at 24 and to me it is perfect but to maybe some of my cousins I see now at that age - there is no way. So really it all depends.
If you think you are ready then you probably are.
2007-03-07 15:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by love777 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is really no set age, you have to be financially ready and mature. I was 21 and my husband was 23 when our daughter was born, and we were ready. And now I am pregnant again and I will be 23 and he will be 25 when this one is born.
2007-03-07 09:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Jennifer H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ...
When you & your partner feel ready to take on the committment
When you both feel loving, confident and mature with each other
When you are excited about having a family
And way before fertility becomes a problem (around 35+)
2007-03-07 06:35:26 · answer #8 · answered by echo c 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
most women have that bio clock lol but lord knows when it will go of so a good age to start is really about 25 and thats only if you feel ready ! other then that its when u r ready
2007-03-07 06:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by hakaes24 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when ever you feel ready. And when you can also support a child. Dont forget theres alot more to just having a child. Theres after care too.
2007-03-07 06:43:55 · answer #10 · answered by emma p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋