This girl got hold of my fiance cellphone number, she sms him twice, but he did not tell me about it, with time I found out about it all and asked him why didn't he told me, his answer was "that he know that I would be upset about it" and he did reply on one of her messages. Should I worry or should I just let it go?????
2007-03-06 22:26:50 · 16 answers · asked by angel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From one Angel to another - if he can't be honest with you, don't waste you time on him. If he can lie about sms', what else is he lying about? You deserve better!
2007-03-06 22:32:31 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's probably nothing. Sometimes people do stupid things for no reason at all. Maybe he replied because he just wanted to be polite. But good thing is he is concerned how this thing is going to make you feel so I understand him not telling you. My husband avoids telling me stuff that would upset me and he thinks it's better than worrying me without need. I would have liked to be informed - it's better than not to know - but I appreciate that in him. Still you can tell your fiance that you don't like the idea of him secretly sms-ing with another woman and should ask him to not do it again. Then trust him and don't check secretly his phone. It's not nice and if he finds out, he might feel trapped and suspected without reason and that could create trouble in your relationship.
2007-03-07 06:35:04 · answer #2 · answered by petyado 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
worry about it! Incidences like these are precursors to affairs! You might want to even hold off the wedding until you feel comfortable with the communication levels in your relationship. If you let things like this settle and if he's keeping something this small and petty from you at the risk of you getting "upset about it," what the heck is he going to do when temptation comes in a more strong, direct manner? And believe me, it WILL! So, you two should work on your communication so you can have a long-lasting marriage.
2007-03-07 06:33:37 · answer #3 · answered by Yeahthatsright 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you want honesty in your relationship and ask him how he would feel if you had been texting some guy that got hold of your number.. its always alright for men to do one thing but if it was us they'd go spare so bring it home to him.. then tell him to get her number barrd from his fone and if he lies again you wont hang around.. see it only happened twice so let it go if he was intrested in this girl it would be all the time.. if you hear it happens again the dump his a s s and for the next while check his cell in secret like when he goes the bathroom.. then youl know for sure you can trust him again
2007-03-07 06:33:29 · answer #4 · answered by Pepsi cola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have had a fit if i found out, i see why your fiance didnt tell you! but i dont see why he didnt tell you earlier. tell him he should have told you, come on you're going to spend the rest of your lives together are'nt you's??? you will need complete honesty if you are!!! ok..... do either of you know her??? do you know why she sends him texts??? did he tell you what his reply was to her??? you need to find out before you decide on whether to worry about it or take it seriously. just talk things through with him, good luck!!!
2007-03-07 06:35:27 · answer #5 · answered by *grid_iron gurl* 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personlay would investiagate the subject more. After all you are going to spend the rest of your life with this man. Better to find out now than latter.
2007-03-07 06:31:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would be upset. even if you didnt talk back to her, its worse to find out this way than for him to just have mentioned it to you before. its like men tell u what they think u want to hear. why do they try to decide what youll get mad about and what you wont. well he was wrong huh. I wouldnt worry too much if u trust him, but tell him next time he knows what to do.
2007-03-07 06:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt let it go and forget about, but id have atalk to him and tell him u are willing to listen to everything he feels he needs to tell you. tell him ur relationship has to run on trust and see how it goes from there.
2007-03-07 06:47:16 · answer #8 · answered by ahhhhhhhhh!u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wud be worried, coz if he didnt tell u that what else is he keeping a secret?
2007-03-07 06:32:02 · answer #9 · answered by tinkabel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he can't keep it honest with you, even when it will "hurt" you, you need to move on girl. You can't trust this guy.
2007-03-07 06:30:26 · answer #10 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋