Have you ever chosen to be celibate until something of quality/meaning came along? How long did this take?

Question

Im not interested in hearing from repressed people who are saving it for marriage or have some moral or religious hang ups.
I want to hear from people who fully enjoy sex (of all kinds) and have no issue with sex outside of a relationship or marriage...but simply refuse to lower their standards or settle.

Answer 1

well.... for me meaning is all it is about.... so... d wait, actually never seems like a wait ... it feels superior...

u c ppl coming and going, wid no standrds or respect for each othrs body and soul.. it makes me pity them... and i wud hate to b pitied on myself....

often wen u wait fr something impatiently, it takes longer... jus let urself flow free... and be only commanded by ur true feelings.... dere is no ait.. its jus about d right time... :) ... god bless... good luck

Answer 2

ok, I'll put it simply as this. I tried it once, but later realized that it wasn't because i was truely trying, i just was tired of looking. Eventually i found someone and we had sex, and all the bells and whistles. But to answer your question, if your waiting for the right person, and you wait long enough, you'll soon realize that you keep raising the sandard, and keep holding back for whatever reason. So you must fill the gap, wait for marriage, or not. Because waiting for the right person, is the same as waiting for marriage. How will you know if it is the right person untill they are gone. No one ever figures that one out. Unless your better than the human race, if thats the fact, i have questions for you instead (wink).

Answer 3

I know you said you don't want to hear from people who are saving themselves for marriage (and yes, I am one of them) but I would like to share some insight that could help anyone: You can fully enjoy sex and be all for it occuring outside of marriage, but standards are a HUGE part of who you should give yourself to. Honestly, when you have sex with someone, you are essentially giving apart of yourself to them, making yourself vulnerable to them at least for the time you are with them in that moment. Most people are not able to give the only thing they will ever truly own (their body) to someone else with no emotional connection or attachment later on, so that's why (if I was in that position) I would choose to be celibate until I found someone I could truly see myself with for a long time, seeing as I am allowing them to take a piece of me with them, you see? Honestly, aside from my faith that makes me want to stay pure until marriage, I also want to make sure that the guy I give myself to is worth it (meeting my standards) and is willing to stay aside from my vulnerabilities.

Answer 4

After my divorce was final, 7 years ago, I made a conscience decision not to "settle" and so have remained celibate since. The choices out there just aren't worth it where I live (at least as far as I've seen!) so it's not really a hardship.

Answer 5

Cope? Psh, i do no longer care what faith you're (or are not), have some self administration and morals for goodness sake. i'm sixteen and celebate and doing wonderful (proud Virgin here). And definite, I genuinely have my urges, yet I even have the audacity to regulate them! :D human beings, even athiests, often view human beings as being extra state-of-the-artwork and 'above' those in the animal kingdom. I consider that. yet those comparable human beings might desire to coach they're extra effectual than some person-friendly canines by technique of having the means and could to regulate their organic tendencies! How do I take care of celibacy? definitely, i'm a Christian, and ask Christ for help. I meditate, and prepare respiratory and self administration workouts. I raise my eyes up for a 2nd, and understand there is a fantastic deal extra to the international than intercourse and 'love' and drama. this is HOW I COPE! And what outcomes do i'm getting from it? nicely, i think extra organic, and to that end 'needless to say' happy. i'm no longer mixed up in a drowning habit of lust. I genuinely have extra delight. i think as though i'm able to do extra in existence. i've got found out to appreciate women persons extra. i've got grown nearer to God and in my spirituality. a lot of stuff. intercourse isn't relaxing and video games, little ones. heh o.k., i'm carried out now, sorry heh. yet that definitely is how I cope and sense

Answer 6

...and for the umpteenth time I say unto you: Celibacy and/or chastity are their own punishments! One need not lower any perceived standards not just settle. But to remain unerotic means to deny life. Reexamine your standards. What does "quality" mean to you? "Meaning"? Must one always have filet mignon or lobster for a meal? Aren't there any other tasty foods available? And lastly isn't sex a quality unto itself? Those questions have to be answered by you alone. Our answers are tainted by the way WE look at this.

Answer 7

i have no standards... I LOVE SEX AND DON'T WANT TO RESTRICT MYSELF TO "STANDARDS"... :D