i've been living with my boyfriend for 2 years, he is such a sweet man and i feel very happy with him, we are both 28 years old, he is very helpful and very supportive of everything i do, i find we are 2 peas in a pot - very identical! HOWEVER, i am so happy to just live with him, i never want to marry him or anybody, i think co-hibiting is the way for me, i am committed to him, i do not cheat, bugt i want to stay unmarried for the rest of my life, i also do not want children. I love my career, love travelling with my boyfriend, some peole said if you love someone you will marry them, but i don't feel like that at all, is it still love?
2007-03-06 22:15:26 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Not everyone needs that piece of paper to let them know that they are in love. If you are happy the way you are (and he's good with it too) Then live your life and be happy. Too many people think they need to live up to what society thinks they should be or do and end up miserable. Live, love and be happy. Enjoy each other.
2007-03-06 23:32:26 · answer #1 · answered by jweh8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like you're having a great relationship. Why let marriage ruin it? If you and your boyfriend are comfortable with things as they are, you should not feel any pressure to change them.
Marriage originated as a form of property contract or a mode of allegiance between two families. The idea that it is the ultimate goal of romantic love only really originated in the last century or so.
2007-03-06 22:23:54 · answer #2 · answered by Saint Bee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't mean that you don't love him. There's no law that says you 'must' get married, it's a personal choice. Ok, so for most people it a natural progression in their relationship but there are plenty of people out there that never get married and they live long & happy lives together. You have to do what you are happy with, it's your life after all.
2007-03-06 23:14:18 · answer #3 · answered by sunshine_honey69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are doing so well with him and obviously very much in love with him, you are probably concerned that marriage will change this somehow. As long as he feels the same it will be cool. Just keep in mind if he is not OK with it that marriage itself is only a piece of paper. Technically you are married to him. You already live together as husband and wife.
2007-03-06 22:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's still love. Where is the rule book of life that says you HAVE to get married? I tried it once and found that it wasn't for me.
If you both feel that way, then don't worry about it. Do not allow other people's feelings and opinions to come between the two of you. It's your life.
2007-03-06 22:19:47 · answer #5 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think that love does not mean marriage. marriage has nothing to do with love. it's some weird legal thing that apparently "bonds you together" but that's just bs. cavemen people never had marriages, just love the way you love, probably good the way it is. i'm repeating myself now, ha.
but point is, don't feel bad about not wanting to get married, i never want to get married. maybe your boyfriend doesn't want to get married either.
2007-03-06 22:22:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people don't get married and still are happy because if things don't work out then you won't have to go through the difficulty and expense of divorce so just be happy other people are just jealous.
2007-03-06 22:19:51 · answer #7 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 50% love himas a husband and 50% as a best/close friend. You may still say its love, its just sad or sorry to say this but you fear the responsibilities that will come in the future. So here's two things: 1. Its confusion. 2. You need to seek guidance.
2007-03-06 23:50:51 · answer #8 · answered by Kaka 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If your boyfriend does want to marry you, what are you going to do about that? Probably this is still love, but it seems clear you are not ready to be responsible for anything at all. Life goes through phrases. You can not just stop at one point forever, especially when there's somebody you love involve. This is not just about you alone, you have to consider your boyfriend's feeling as well. That is being unselfish, that is sacrifice, that is LOVE.
2007-03-06 22:22:38 · answer #9 · answered by Ann M. 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mairrigage is not for everyone. And it doesnt have to be. Dont feel pressered to ever do it. Todays society it is OK not to be married and have kids. Role with the times.
2007-03-07 02:43:25 · answer #10 · answered by Shootsscores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋