I have this habit of relating events to my own personal life and getting angry on my GF.For example, my best frined's GF has gone out with other guys and you know ....(sh'e s a B&^%#). I know for a fact that my GF will not ever do this , but i get frustrated and get angry on my poor GF. I know i am doing it wrong but can't help it when i get angry ...Someone please help me . I love her and getting married in some days.
2007-03-06 22:09:36 · 17 answers · asked by rocky 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
First of all you are Insecure OR you do not Trust her completely. You are headed for a fall if you are like this now. Wait until you are married and you will not find it so easy to live like this. You will want to know where she is all the time, who she is talking to, who she is hanging around, and will even probably want to monitor her phone calls. DO NOT get married with this kind of attitude my friend, you will regret it big time.
2007-03-06 22:14:27 · answer #1 · answered by Ex Head 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You've got good answers there. Read them all carefully. First, I'd like to tetll you that I respect and admire your honesty. Above all, remember. 1) you have no excuse for your temper. It is important to seek help for it, professional help, not a friend or talking it out with your girfriend. Marriage is not easy, and your temper will get worse. 2) her friend and her are different people. Heck, there's a lot of untrustworthy people in the world, some of them may even be your friends. But nothing gives you the right to yell at people, EVEN if it were your girlfriend. There are other ways. 3) you will lose the love of your life if you get it out on her and not seek that help I'm recommending. 4) through the help, you will discover your own issues and feel much better about yourself for good and, instead of stuffing it in (if you can even do that successfully), you'll be able to have a healthy, happy relationship. Hurry. Anger management is not too difficult to treat.
I commend you for being honest and humble to recognize that you have a problem.
2007-03-07 06:28:54 · answer #2 · answered by browneyedgirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are planning on marrying this woman, you might want to postpone the wedding and seek professional help because I would hate to see this poor woman end up with someone who gets so angry over such TRIVIAL things. I'd also hate to think how you might react if it was something more serious. If you don't work out your issues, this future marriage might not last very long. I will just stop here because I don't want to make any false accusations. You wouldn't believe some of the things my ex-girlfriend did, but I never once raised my voice to her or demeaned her in any way whatsoever, and I never once even felt like it. I just hope you can end up doing the same thing.
2007-03-07 06:25:42 · answer #3 · answered by Chrisguy4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, explain. Try to calm down first. Do the alphabet forward and then backward, or count to 300. Then apologize for your actions. Next step explain whats really on your mind. Even if you already did the deed, to back, talk to her about whats really going on. In my eyes, and things ive realized, a woman is one of the only things that can soothe the beast when a man gets angry or pissed off. If you reach out, she will be their, but you MUST open the lines of communication or things will become alot worse.
2007-03-07 06:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle E 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your behaviour is extremely destructive towards your girlfriend and towards yourself.
It is unacceptable to take out your anger on other people, especially if they have done absolutely nothing to deserve it.
You can help it when you get angry. We all have to learn to deal with our own emotions. We all have a responsibility not to hurt other people.
You do not sound like you are in a position to have a serious relationship. But you can work through this if you have the dedication to do so. I urge you to speak to your doctor and seek professional counselling.
2007-03-07 06:19:41 · answer #5 · answered by Saint Bee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good you know that she can't cheat on you and will never cheat on you. All you need to do is to put your trust and confidence in her. When you say you love somebody, it therefore mean that you must certainly trust and have confidence in that person because love is not complete when there is no trust and confidence between the two of you.
2007-03-07 06:22:24 · answer #6 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you know you've got bad temper, try to work on it or consult a professional on how to curb your temper. Remember, there is a limit on how much your girlfriend can take. Besides, losing temper is not healthy.
2007-03-07 06:14:09 · answer #7 · answered by SGElite 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are getting married soon which means that you will be thinking of any reason why not to. That is why it is called your last few days of freedom. If you love her, are ready to get married, and have clear what to expect, and do your best as a husband, then there will be NOTHING wrong with getting a divorce if she does turn out to be ´that type´. Good luck, and Congratulations.
2007-03-07 06:14:07 · answer #8 · answered by nassim420 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You "can't" help it?"???That is a poor excuse for unacceptable behavior. What's YOUR problem?? Going to beat her up when you have bad day at work?? Get some help dude. Your behavior toward your girlfriend is a sure fire way to get her to drop you. And you would deserve it too.
2007-03-07 06:16:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't do that!!! Unless she personally gives you reason not to trust her then relax!!! Your going to make both of you miserable over the years!!!!Thanks god everyday you have a trustworthy girlfriend. Treat her like the treasure she is!!!! You are very lucky and I think she is too! Just lighten up & start enjoying life with her!!!!
2007-03-07 06:11:58 · answer #10 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋