i am 60 yrs and have drinking habit regularly want to leave but can't do that daily think i will not drink but

Question

am widower with children settled, feel quite lonely and goes for regular drinking, am getting overweight, tries to leave it but has no will power to me it seems i need moral support but still lack in me the firmness with which i should control may be because of fear of insecurity and want to be with someone though i stay with my family i mean son, daughter-in-law and two grandchildren but still an urge is always there to drink, somewhere i am lacking and have no control on me, fail to understand what to do and fully understand that it is not good for my health but still goes like this as is the old saying that bad habits seldom die, and sometimes think that let it happen then again a thought comes who will care for me if somethings happens to me am quite distressed, shall feel grateful if someone could help me pl to come out of this situation.

Answer 1

It seems to me that AA would be beneficial to you. Not only would you get moral support in the group setting, it would also help in giving you a social outing that could lead to new friendships.

Answer 2

You should definitely try to attend some Alcoholics Anonymous meetings. I don't know where you live, but you can just call information and get the number for the AA hotline and they'll guide you from there. Just try them. It's worth a shot. Besides the fact taht it may help you stop drinking, you will find enormous support, meet lots of people and be able to make strong connections with people who will really understand you. I think that it will do wonders for you, both for your addiction and b/c I think you need social interaction and a suppor group outside of your family. AA has saved millions of lives. It can help you too. It's free and there are tons of meetings in every city in the US and sometimes in other countries too. It is not easy to stop drinking, especially with no help. It is not a matter of "will" and it is far more than just a "habit." You have a problem and you need help. The folks at AA will welcome you with open arms and you'll feel like you belong among these people who are just like you and can help you overcome this horrible addiction. Don't blame yourself; it is hard to do alone and there is no reason for you to have to do it alone. Also, I don't know exactly how much you drink, but please don't take this matter lightly: stopping drinking abruptly after a long bout of drinking can be extremely dangerous and even fatal. So please take this problem of yours very seriously; see a doctor and try to go to an AA meeting to see if it's right for you. I feel your pain and wish you all the best. Good luck and I hope you get the help you need.

Answer 3

I KNOW EXACTLY WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH.
Dont know if I can help but they say "misery likes company".

I am a 65 yr. old women. I am divorced for 29 years after 20 years of marriage. I raised my 7 boys on my own. I was thier father and mother. I did not get support from my ex. That in itself is a long story.

You feel alone, and depressed nothing to look foward to. I am hooked on valium. I do not go out 24/7. My son who lives accross the street from me does my shopping. But I feel that I impose on him allot so many times like this week my fridge is empty. I still have some bread, so I am eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Yesterday, I tried to go on a diet, so I ate the last can of tuna, and for supper I had a fried egg sandwich.

I take the valium because I can't stand the pain of lonliness. I think of death allot, but because of my children I don't do what I really want to and that is not to live anymore. You know what I mean, but I cannot write the word. You drink to deal with your pain, and I use valium to deal with mine.

I finally decided that I cannot exist like this anymore. I hit rock bottom so I am now looking for a phsyciatrist. Maybe it will help.
I know I didnt answer your question. My problem also is that I have agraphobia, which means I cannot leave my home and be with people. I am in such a rut.

Because of this I cannot do what I will suggest to you. Maybe if you try volunteering at an old age home, or hospital. A good Idea to kill 2 birds with one stone is going to AA meetings You will be around other people and you will start feeling like you are a person too. You don't feel needed anymore. That will make you feel needed. Don't know if I helped but I really tried.

From the bottom of my heart, I wish you all the best.

Sincerely, Michele

Answer 4

When you drink, good I, do you drink to get drunk? Or do you just drink a couple of drinks? I dont mean to be harsh but dont you think you should either sh-t or get off the pot? Stop feeling sorry for yourself and get your control back.Have you ever seen that movie " The Shawshank Redeption"? That was a good movie. That one phrase sure stuck with me..Tim Robbins was outside talking to morgan Freeman. During the disuccsion he had said that he either had to get busy living or get busy dying.So I really think its time for you to get busy living because it sounds like to me that you have a son, daughter in law, and two grandchildren that love you very much.So why dont you get your phone book and see what the number is to AA.Start going to some meetings. Get some phone numbers and when you feel like taking a drink call someone.See alcohol is an addiction and when your alone your addiction starts to talk to you.Telling you to take a drink, you can handle it.I know it talked to me all the time.I thought that little voice was my best friend.Boy was I wrong. I sure have got some pretty bad stories to tell.I have been clean now for six years. It sure hasnt been easy. You have to work for it but it sure is worth it.SO please make that contact. You will be in my prayers. God Bless You.

Answer 5

I am friends with a few people who are alcoholics and with several who are friends or relatives of alcoholics. Its not a matter of will power because alcoholism is a disease. If you are craving it, it is quite likely that you may be an alcoholic. Fully functioning people are sometimes alcoholics too, it just will eventually lead to death, imprisonment, or insanity and that is a proven fact. Seek professional help at a treatment center and then attend AA regularly. Good luck to you. You are not weak. You simply need help to fight the disease much like a diabetic needs insulin.

Answer 6

trying not to drink and drinking anyway is a sign of alcoholism. oh sure you still are a good person. but you are an alcoholic. you need help you cant do it on your own. and you will die or go insaine or get hospitilized or get arrested or go to jail ....this is a fact since the beginning of drinking..AA is a good start. or speak to a pastor also he will recomend AA also. there is no other way to a good life except to stop. the fog eventually does life and all happiness comes to you along with other surprises. i know i am recovered for 18 years.. Start with a prayer and i will pray for you now. by the time you read this i will already have prayed for you. you are on your way Amen...... Jennie

Answer 7

Try going to A.A., this is a support group...they will help...and you can also get yourself a sponsor! You won't have to go it alone..because you will have somebody to give you good afirmations...(nobody will make you do something, or nag at you..because YOU are the keeper of YOU..but, you have to relearn how to live a better life...and a much healthier life....)
and besides...think about this,....would you prefer living a bit longer..or being in the grave earlier?
Alcohol is poison...and it messes with your body....and it also messes with your mind too!
My ex-boyfriend ended up getting schizophrenia from too much alcohol..and I will tell you, that to me, that was scary to live with!!!

Please, get some help, look up your local chapters.either online and or via the yellow pages/or white pages!..Many of the A.A. meetings are held in a church environment...and they usually tell you to go to six meetings, in different places...to see which meetings that you feel the most comfy at!
(I attended A.A. but, mostly alanon...for family and friends..as well as the other alanon groups for children of alcoholics.....I wanted to understand what the kids went thru as well...because I have alcoholism in my family....my mom's father was a severe alcoholic..and my uncles and my mother went thru some not too wonderful times with their dad!)

I have been around other more severe alcoholics..and I have learned how painful it can actually be..as well as frightening too!

I send you best wishes , hopes and dreams...to fulfill your future to come!

Good Luck,and God Bless!


P.S. you never have to be, or feel so alone....okay?!

Answer 8

I have a close friend with the problem of alcoholism. He wants to quit and keeps telling himself that he will only drink one beer (you probably know how that goes). I think that both you and he cannot drink 'just a beer'.
I will tell you what I have been telling my friend: If this thing is bigger than you are, then seek help. It is my understanding that AAA is really very supportive and works well.
Good luck and God bless

Answer 9

dedicate your life to the shaping of your grand children.
have an ambition,i want to see them as something big in their life.
research out .take the support of your son and dr-in-law and offer your help.
you also go on self development.
depending upon your skill spend time with elders of your category,time in library.
take up a social service activity to keep you engaged.
you are a senior citizen. you know better.
good luvk!

Answer 10

You are old enough to know what is good for you and what is not. Try to find yourself a hobby to pass your time in a manner which is beneficial to your health and mind.